Freelancer posted: " My youngest and friendly baby So I recently started a long distance relationship with a foreigner I met online. He ticked all my boxes and so we got talking. I told him about my boys and my relationship status and he was okay with everything but" Single Mum Mind
So I recently started a long distance relationship with a foreigner I met online. He ticked all my boxes and so we got talking.
I told him about my boys and my relationship status and he was okay with everything but had one nagging issue. He was seeing other kids on my profile and started doubting ḿe.
Now, you all probably know I love kids and tend to be around them except I am busy. So he had noticed my neighbor's kids (3 beautiful girls including the baby my son is carrying in the picture) and because they were frequent, he thought I lied about having just 2 boys
As crazy as it sounds, people actually think this way. One of the early issues my parents had was that my my mum had taken in her younger brother's daughter and kept referring to her as her daughter even when challenged, she would rather start an argument about every child around had a right to be called her daughter.
All these might sound irrelevant but it was what saved the situation as we did a video call and he told my sons that he thought I had more that two boys and was actually trying to convince my boys, he didn't mind. I guess their reaction was epic enough for him to apologize for even thinking it.
My honesty and transparency made it easy for me to diffuse what could have easily become a big issue. I am sharing just because I know some of you are probably at that phase and thinking your defiance is a show of strength.
I am sorry to tell you that your defiance is a show of not willing to learn from the past, not accepting your situation and unwillingness to move on. That's something you are really going to have to work on.
In the meantime, I am just going to congratulate the potential mate you pissed off on not commiting to someone who is not healed enough to put the effort into having a healthy relationship
I told him about my boys and my relationship status and he was okay with everything but" 
on not commiting to someone who is not healed 
enough to put the effort into having a healthy relationship 
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