Daily writing prompt
Which aspects do you think makes a person unique?
I believe that someone's personality is what makes them unique. Have you ever heard about the MBTI personality test? It's quite interesting way to learn about your preferences through the results. It helps us understand the people we attract and why we may not connect with others.
My MBTI result is INFJ, which stands for Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging—a rather rare personality type. To be honest, making friends isn't easy nowadays, especially at the age of 30 and because I tend to be introvert. My brother always thought I was an extrovert because I had many friends while growing up, most of whom chose to live in Jakarta and still contact me regularly to discuss many things.
Recently, I had a conversation with my friend Hanum about the struggle of making friends here in my new place. It's challenging, and I just felt disconnected because making a deep conversation is quite hard. I questioned myself if I'm being too serious or too uptight. I feel like I constantly have to ask myself whether what I'm about to say is too serious when I'm in a circle of new friends here. However, when I'm in Jakarta, I feel recharged meeting people who enjoy in-depth conversations too. Hanum is also an INFJ. We both enjoy philosophical subjects, from simple daily problems to profound discussions about bigger problem, as we are natural thinkers. So I've never felt judged or like I have to be someone else when talking to her.
"It's because we grew up together, so I think the way we think more align and there's no pressure to try to impress or be someone else we don't know. We both know exactly who we really are, and you can handle my BS as well," she replied when I asked her if the friends who have stuck with me since kindergarten are maybe the ones who can keep up with my BS.
But honestly, I believe the connection works between us because we share similar personalities, making it easier to connect on certain things. My idea of fun differs from most people. I'm a typical introvert who enjoys quiet mornings with books and sometimes when I got burn out I prefer to be alone with my thoughts or engaging in deep meaningful conversation with a good friend. I often feel out of place at parties and I used to blame myself for not being able to enjoy this supposed to be 'great time' that ended up making me trying too hard to fit in. But I'm no longer blaming myself as I have different personality and things that I like and I accepted that now, and so does other people. Therefore, I strongly believe that a person's personality is what makes them unique because it determines how well they fit into certain environments, the friendships and relationships they need, and even their career choices.
