Because the dynamics of an abuser/enabler relationship is still LEARNED by the children, from watching the adults, interact! Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
Studies showed, that children who witnessed domestic violence at home, the males have a 5.27 times of becoming abusers, the females, 4.3 percent, to best prevent the abused to become an abuser is to stop the vicious cycle at the source, but, for those young children who already witnessed domestic violence, there's the need for the preventive "social learning", the experts pointed out, that the earlier the intervention, the higher the efficacy of stopping the vicious cycle.
the environment which we were, raised up in...photo from online
Those with experiences of domestic violence, stated by the C.E.O. of the Counseling Guild of Taipei, Lang, will more than likely have the "learning effect", those who witnessed and had been abused, are more than likely to abuse those around them too, if the childhood traumas got put off until adulthood to manage, then, even IF the professional help or the medical assistance had been offered, if the individuals don't open up, the learned behaviors of violence can't be, rooted up.
The secretary of the Counseling Association, Su stated, that a middle school student who bore witness to the violence at home, worried that if he goes to school, his mother would get abused, and would fake illness to stay at home, to protect his mother. Su told, that these signs needed to be caught on time by the schools or the social policy organizations, so intervention can be offered, to stop the children who are witnesses to the violence to continually get, traumatized.
how we will, likely, interact with our significant others...being "victimized"...photo from online
Du the Women's Rescue Foundation told, that based off of the research, a-third of the children who witnessed domestic violence worried that they may become abusive themselves, or get abused, to the point of not dating, not marrying; helping to lower the chances or to stop the domestic violence, is the only way to avoid the children from getting, affected by it.
Yeah, this is all, sound, and it's absolutely true, that if you were witnesses to abuse when you were younger, chances are, you will, turn into an abuser or an enabler (not the victim!) in your future relationships, and, this is like DNA, impossible to get rid of, unless you are, extremely AWARE of yourselves, your interactions with others in your lives, and, you take measures to change, otherwise, no amount of protection, education, or even, PRISON time will, stop this vicious cycle.
