rachelramdhan posted: " Photo by Elina Fairytale on Pexels.com How many of us told ourselves that we'll be happy when we achieve whatever it is we wanted? How many of us have a checklist of things we want to achieve by a certain age? How many of us reached the stage of ach" Musings of the Mind
How many of us told ourselves that we'll be happy when we achieve whatever it is we wanted? How many of us have a checklist of things we want to achieve by a certain age? How many of us reached the stage of achieving them and then wondering what next?
If you related to any of those questions, my friend you are not alone.
Ever since I've known myself I had a checklist of things that I wanted to achieve. Now the things on the checklist were amended as I got older to suit the reality I was living in but the main concepts were always there. I always knew I wanted my own home, I wanted a career, I wanted to be married, I wanted kids, I wanted my car, I wanted to travel, and I wanted financial stability. In essence I wanted what most people want: a comfortable life.
What did I do? I followed the path most of us heard growing up: if you study hard and do well in school you'll get a good job and you'll get everything you want in life.
I started ticking off my checklist from the time I understood that a good education equaled a good job which equaled to having money to buy the things I wanted.
I spent the last ten years of my life sacrificing and working hard and I got it all: I got the degrees, the marriage, the house, the car, the job all before my thirtieth birthday. One day while going home I turned to Kevin and said "Babe, this is the first time in my life that I'm not actively working towards something."
And it's true. For the first time in my life I didn't have a next goal to work tirelessly behind. I didn't have another "must achieve" goal in mind. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I have no goals at all, I do, but for the first time in my life, I have no big ticket items to achieve.
The realization was met with an array of emotions:
♡ A moment where I felt pride because all the hardwork paid off.
♡ A moment of happiness because I was able to achieve the things I did with the support of my family and Kevin.
♡ A moment of disbelief because did I really get everything I wanted.
♡ A moment of what next.
That was my big introspective question: What happens next?
Truthfully I don't know but I do know that I'm going to be enjoying the now.
I am going to enjoy where I am right now in this moment without wondering about the things I didn't achieve or the things I wanted.
Before I end this post, I want to share a quote with you that I came across while listening to a Ted Talk. It says: "Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for." - Epicurus.
No matter where you are in your life in relation to your goals, think about where you were six months ago or even five years ago to where you are now. You'll see the growth, the development, and the meaning behind Epicurus' quote.
But most importantly: don't forget to enjoy this moment in your life.
THE END
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