Every New Year people make countless resolutions to make changes in their life. They fail because they do do not break their goals into managable goals. The year I had my second child, I knew that I had a lot of weigh to lose. I had been on bedrest and wasn't eating what I cooked. The first thing I did was make a weight goal for 9 months. I walked twice a day as soon I came home from the hospital, It was good for my children to be outside. I made my health priority.
I have had friends who have the best of intentions about straightening out their fiances, health, homemaking, etc. What works for one person,another person may not be able to accomplish, thus setting themselves for failure.
Budgeting doesn't have to be all or nothing, unless you have hit rock bottom. Reduce spending in an area or two.
Health is not simply weight loss or comtrol. Maybe, you have diabetes, hpertension and your current meds and diet aren't working. The first step would be having a conversation with your doctor. Perhaps, the children have dicitated the dinner table too long. Start serving a different dinner every week and have them help cook it. One of my children was a very picky eater because I became their parent at 5 years old. It took a long time to work through the eating issues. I encouraged trying new foods. I blended hated vegetables into sauces. Maybe, you eat out too much. You could try to make favorite eatery dishes.
Maybe, your marriage isn't great, changing your attitude toward your spouse and yourself. One of my friends asked me why I have a good marriage. The answer is respect and communication. It is the little things. I always serve my husband first at dinner. He serves me coffee in the morning. When he was working at his former job, I got up at 4 a.m. without fail to make his lunch. It is very easy to be unkind to your spouse. I have a much quicker temper than my husband does. He knows when I say I need a minute, I need a minute. Marriage isn't always 50/50, sometimes one spouse needs to put in a bit more. One of my sayings about managing your own emotions is "Check yourself before your wreck yourself." You can't manage a situation if you can't manage yourself. I developed that mantra when I was working with violent teenagers inhome.
Go easy on your self this year, pick one area to improve and break it down into managable steps.
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