Arms outstretched with people gently pulling from either side, participants of my workshop felt what it's like to go in opposite directions at the same time.
The results: they swayed a bit to the left and right, but stayed in the same position, going nowhere.
Your contradictory thoughts can keep you stuck, too: a part of you wants to go forward while another holds you back.
You hope for better, but your thoughts keep you where you are.
How do you know if you have contradictory thoughts? Here are a couple of examples.
You choose success. But there are those pesky, opposing voices.
- You worry about things, like what if doesn't work. Remember what happened before and how disappointed you felt? Maybe people who pointed out your limitations were right. What were you thinking? And who are you to make more money than your parents?
- Better play it safe. Save yourself from discouragement and failure. Don't even bother trying or get out while you can.
You choose to be in a relationship or a better one. But even if you meet Mr. or Ms. Right, with attitudes like these, it might not go anywhere or the relationship could be unsatisfying.
- Oh, get real. They start out great, and then they're more trouble than they're worth. Look at your history. Yes, you long for a loving partner. But if you haven't found "the one" by now, it's too late. They probably won't like the way you look, anyway.
- Better not get your hopes up. Just resign yourself to being alone.
When your energy goes in opposite directions:
- You feel discouraged, and your confidence wanes. Frustration, hopelessness, fear, depression, anger, guilt or shame can creep in. You find it hard to be yourself and feel happy.
- Your energy is like Pigpen, who's pictured above, from the Charlie Brown comics. Your doubt and diminishing self-opinion swirl around you. People can feel it, which motivates them to disappear from your life.
Conflicting thoughts can drive you bonkers and cause the biblical lament to come true.
"For the thing which I greatly feared is come upon me, and that which I was afraid of is come unto me."
Job:3:25 KJV
Here's step-by-step how to get clarity.
Make a choice to focus on one direction at a time. Then act on it.
How? By believing (as much as you can) in yourself, your dreams, your goals. It's a simple choice. Don't make it complicated with your yes buts and conflicting thoughts. You can do this. It's just a choice.
How much belief? All it takes is the faith of a mustard seed. They're tiny. Check out the size in your kitchen or supermarket.
On average, people only access 10% of their true essence. The rest is the personality, seen in everyday life, that's often filled with doubts and negativity.
- Ask, right now, for 100% of you to be present. In this moment, your life is on track for greater happiness and to be more focused, single-minded, Soul-directed. It takes practice, especially if you're in the habit of complaining about others, your past or current conditions.
- Step back and observe the thoughts in your head that aren't helpful. Choose to notice the negative ones, and decide to change them for something more positive.
- Choose to align with the 90% that's your inner Self. Now you've tapped into your infinite potential!
- Appreciate yourself and acknowledge things that are working.
You absolutely have the ability to align more and more with your inner Self. It's who you are!
With focused, positive energy, you can powerfully be successful in the direction you choose or someplace better!
Edited from original the Soulgoals' post of December 13, 2016
Had enough of the inner conflict and ready to move past it?
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