I know this sounds cliche especially in this age and time when doing you often ends up as a trendy quirk.
I want to focus on it from a relationship perspective. Many relationships are suffering because the persons are putting so much effort into looking right in the eye of friends and family. Many are looking to coming across in a socially acceptable way regardless of how uncomfortable they personally feel about the socially acceptable terms.
Their grievance leads to suppressed frustration which is often released by getting aggressive in the face of those they don't have to impress socially.
In most cases, this is their family and friends. This builds a cycle of hostility that can often not be broken as a deviation from their self imposed norm is often met with aggression especially by the beneficiaries.
These beneficiaries tend to be people you have unconsciously handed over your peace to. Sometimes this people rose to this post of relevance in your life not necessarily because they contribute to your progress but often by virtue of social or biological network.
Even where such person has been supportive of your growth in the past, you would have to sit back and question if the person is relevant to your current situation and your progressive growth.
Life is a journey, a good friend in primary school might need to be dropped when you become a college student as your goals and ideals might differ. An elderly counsel who guides you through school might actually need to be dropped when you transition into a professional.
This is a fact we need to face if we need to move on, constantly conceding to avoid conflicts has constantly proved to be a source of hereditary division within families. and friends. Often creating feudal issues that run through generations.
Issues like this contributed to why some of us are single parents today and I think we need to check ourselves and admit that we cannot continue to promote such baseless yet unbridled feud. Let us stop transferring grievances and check ourselves to ensure our future generations have less feud to engage in
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