No need to hurry up, child, just, develop according to your own, schedules…translated…
Opening my son's lunch, other than the lunch box waiting to get rinsed off, there's also, a perfectly folded up folding umbrella. I can't help, but take it out first, then, raised it up high, asked my son, "did you fold this umbrella by yourself?", as he was changing out of his school uniform, he'd hollered back, with that scent of pride, "of course I had!", I'd found, that he was, waiting for a job well done from me, I'd immediately continued, "this was the first time I saw that you'd, folded up your umbrella so neatly, you'd improved quite a bit, I'm so happy!"
I'd recalled how he'd always been, a bit slower than the rest of the children, or maybe, because we didn't send him to preschool, he'd, lacked that first stages of adaptation period, the first day of his first grade, he'd cried as he'd gone into the class, and, cried as I'd, arrived to school to pick him up, and, there's only him who was crying, out of the, entire, class. And every time afterwards when I'd told him about it, he'd claimed, bashfully, "don't bring the past back up again!"
Other than being too nervous, too shy, and thinking too much, he seemed to have lack the mind, for instance, in the first grade, the teachers had them learn to tie their shoes, and used a cardboard, with the strings that intertwined on the boards, it'd, made him not known how he was to, handle them; those routes, became completely, tangled, messed up in their, orders, causing his brains to get tied up too, he'd, stopped functioning in his mind then.
this is, absolutely, BULLSHIT! As every single child IS, different, and there should NOT be that "expected development" that's MATCHED for every single kid at a certain age! Chart found online
A lot of things that were considered too easy for ordinary persons, they'd all, increased their difficulty levels by at least half for him, and, this kid, had been, the opposite of "killing one bird with two stones". This time, he was able to, fold his umbrella up so perfectly, like how we'd bought it from the stores, it truly, surprised me, and it'd, made me recalled the times of him, "moving forward in super speed in an instant"; these moments always reminded me of the poet, Su's "Ode to Pork", "Wait for him to mature on his own, don't hurry him along, when the fire is just right, he shall, be in the, form of, perfection that he is.", and it'd, also reminded me, to NOT fit my son's reaching his milestones, based off of my expectations of how he should be.
So, every child has her/his own time to develop, some just, are slow to start, but once these children get going, the speed to which they can learn, is quite, surprising to the adults, and, all the worries from before, of the kids may be developmentally delayed, all go, out the window, and this just showed, how we the adults, should NEVER lock our own young inside those boxes, of the age-appropriate milestones, because each kid has a different schedules, and, just because a kid can't do something, that does NOT mean that s/he isn't more intelligent in other forms, there are, the multiple intelligences, as ascribed by Gardner, you do realize that, don't you, parents???
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