Yes, I'm very angry writing this right now. And my apologies if I offend anyone, that is absolutely not my intention, I'm just so upset and need to get this out of my system.
Some background context:
I work MORE hours than my husband and his adult son. They BOTH benefit from my income more than I do. My income pays for all their utilities, television, internet, health insurance, healthcare, food, groceries, auto insurance, etc.
My husband used to pay the mortgage, which was his financial contribution, but then I got HUGE workplace bonuses for the last several years (that I earned by working my ass off 60+hours a week in a very stressful environment while all my coworkers around me were getting furloughed and laid-off) to pay-off the house. And now my husband doesn't have to pay a mortgage anymore.
But now that my husband doesn't have to pay a mortgage anymore, he is exclusively paying for all their (him and his son's) extracurricular activities - they go on hunting trips and fishing trips and football games together and they have a grand ol' time without me and OUR daughter. My husband and I actually have a daughter together, but he barely does anything with her because he doesn't have an interest in her activities.
And when it comes to chores, I basically do all the groceries and house-cleaning and dishes because nobody else will. It's ridiculous.
I'm angry because when my husband said that his ADULT son is moving back in with us rent-free, he said that his son would help with the household chores, including dishes. I was the fool that believed him.
Well.... tonight was the first family dinner night after the adult son has moved back in, and once it was time for dishes, both my husband and his son took off upstairs because they wanted to watch "Roadhouse".
I reminded both of them - Hello, dishes? I did all the groceries and cooking...
And my husband flat-out told me to my face that because him and his son are responsible for the YARDWORK, that they don't have to do any chores inside the home.
Wow.
IF they did yardwork everyday, maybe they would have a case. But they don't. YESTERDAY, was the first day they've done yardwork since OCTOBER. Because of the weather in our area, yardwork isn't necessary all year around. And even from April - Oct, the yardwork is literally ONCE A WEEK - they will lawnmow (ON A RIDING MOWER), weed-eat, and edge, and all of that takes 2 hours, once a week.
2 hours, 1 day per week.
But they do EAT everyday. They consume groceries that I've provided everyday. They enjoy the clean home that I provide everyday. They are watching "Roadhouse" on the Amazon Prime account that I pay for.
But they can't do dishes? It would literally take them 10 minutes. It took me 45 minutes to make dinner. Plus all the time it took me to buy the groceries.
That's a pathetic excuse.
My husband has used this excuse before, and it didn't fly with me then either. So the fact that he's using it AGAIN to defend his adult son, already knowing how I feel about it, is incredibly disrespectful.
I want all my money back that he used to pay-off HIS mortgage, because he certainly doesn't make this home feel like mine. I basically just work here. For him. This isn't a home to me.
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