Gotten used to playing the victim in the gender discrimination of the workplace here, and once you get stuck in that mindset, it will be IMPOSSIBLE for you to break free from it, and, you won't be able to, reach your true potential, climbing that corporate ladder upward like you wanted to! Translated…
I'd owned an engineering firm for thirty years in the U.S., there are, a ton of experiences worth my introspection over. In the pursuit of my professional achievements, a different mindset, and choices, may lead you onto a, different, path.
The firm started growing, when it was still smaller scaled, hosting the meetings, listing the outlines, discussing the means to resolve with my employees, pushing forth with the plans, and, mailing the summaries of these meetings to the related individuals, I'd done it all, simple and easy, the goal was to solve the problems. As my company expanded, there are now the assistants who prepared the meeting records, although, they'd done it in a more complete fashion, but I'd felt it to be, a bit, nitty gritty, that it'd, delayed us from getting down to work. Most of the managers of my firm, are like me, took care of the outlines of the meetings themselves, quick and easy, not letting someone else do it.
the sense of success, achievement should be our own, NOT from the outside...photo from online
That year, Hsiang-En was hired as an assistant C.E.O. of our, small firm of a little over a hundred employees, his primary mission of work was to expand the market, increasing the chances of our firm's winning the bids. First time we had a sales meeting, he, from a larger firm, already used to having an assistant taking notes of the meetings for him, stated, "Ellen should take the notes.", Ellen fell, silent, paused a few minute, then, with her face red, "Why should I be taking the notes? Why are these task, all left to the women?"
Other than Hsiang-En who was there, the rest of the subordinates sitting in the meeting were all, women. Ellen was higher up in position, and, on the meeting, she'd, led the way, challenged the new assistant, C.E.O.
I'd heard, that Hsiang-En, without another word, continued to host the meeting, and, did the outline himself, and, made a copy for me afterwards. The incident sparked up the discussions, and, some of these female employees agreed with Ellen's point of view, some felt, odd she would, act like so.
The meeting records by Hsiang-En was structured really well, organized completely, with a full set of data, which showed the depth of understanding that he had toward the industry, he is totally, a role model for, Ellen. As he sat as the C.E.O., during those years, we'd won several bids for the major constructions, Ellen did NOT, have any input at all. Don't know if this has to do with the displease between the head and his subordinate?
workplace discrimination that's still, intact currently, but it's, reduced, somewhat...illustration from online
Later, Hsiang-En used another market research mediator, Michelle. She's very good at doing what she does, but, has a very, straightforward attitude, would often got into it with Hsiang-En on the proposals of the projects, and the tactics. And, this sort of positive, on-key debate, it'd gotten us bigger chances to win the bids, unfortunately, after a few short years, Michelle decided to go and work for a larger firm, as she'd, accumulated a ton of experiences, and become fuller developed in her working skills, she was then, in charge of a proposal group. While Ellen, never made anything of herself, left my firm, returned back to her former career path, as a, sales agent.
In the American society, women, minorities, or handicapped persons, ARE the lesser, there's nothing wrong with being alert of what's going on in the environment, but, there's the need for the adjustments that come at the right time. The empathy the society has for these groups of minorities, to the form of protection for the groups, this is NOT a guarantee that there would be no discrimination. But, if the employees always saw themselves as victimized by the world, then, they may lose a lot of chances to learn, to change one's own, current, situations. Having an open mind, set your sights higher, actively participate, then, chances will present themselves to, you.
In Ellen's negative attitude in her stubborn support for the minority, she'd neglected how to positively show herself, what she brought to the tables, which is the true asset of the individual, in the ladder to climb in the corporate, world. I'd felt, that she'd lost the opportunity to learn from an excellent manager, which was a shame, and her turbulent path of work in my firm, showed, that.
So, this is on how we tend to, play the victim, because of our gender, our race, we felt, inferior, and, we express that outward, like this woman had, like the world isn't fair to us, and, we are the ones, keeping ourselves from, advancing, because it's this, stereotype of I'm a woman, I can't make more than men can, that's, keeping us from our reaching our higher achievements at work, and we do this, without ourselves knowing it too…
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