Looking back through the years, finding the blessings you had been given, feeling grateful toward all who'd, helped your family, and now, you're, paying it, forward…translated…
It was, forty-two years ago, back when my husband and I had been dating for three years then, we'd talked of marriage, and so my mother took me to a temple to ask. My mother was illiterate, and I hadn't had enough of worldly experiences yet, and can't decipher the meaning of the verses of the slip I'd drawn out.
The man who'd helped decipher the meaning of the slip told my mother, "this marriage will be harder from the beginning, but there will always be someone who helped them out, and in the end, it will, be a good ending for both", as my mother heard, she'd let go of her worries, and, agreed to marry me out.
After we were wed, the adjustment periods before our children were born, the adapting to one another's personalities, the establishment of the relationship of me with my mother-in-law, along with our starting up our business, all of it tested me, as a new bride. As Lunar New Year came, although I am a working woman, I'd still had to gone out early to shop for the items, to cook two large tables' worth of foods, to pass the evaluation of everybody on my husband's side. I'd once cried in secret too, and felt like Cinderella, and objected to my husband too, "marriage IS, the tombstone of love". To the point of me getting into confrontation with my mother-in-law, and my husband just, left home, and he almost committed, suicide. But, just like the man at the temple told me, "when you are troubled, there will be those who will help you light the way", the relatives, the coworkers, had always helped me a whole lot, when I felt stuck, to help me get through the difficult, times.
With the births of my children, we'd put our wages to good use, and, three years later, we'd borrowed the amount for our home from our relatives without any interests, we'd purchased our own home; and, the smiles, the innocent laughter of our young children, it'd, made us feel, more blessed to have each other as family, and we'd, begun, tasting the sweet fruits of our, labor then.
We'd been married for forty-two years to date, and, we are referred to as the "it pair" by our friends, relatives and families. I'm more than grateful for the man who'd managed the temple from my younger years, who's, given me, that blessing, and grateful to all who'd offer me a guiding light in my marriage, that's how the two of us, learned to, appreciate each other, and continue to live happily together. More importantly, I'd often, reminded myself, that I can become, someone's help when others are in need too.
And this is the act of, paying it forward, because you were helped by those around you, who'd offered you the assistance when you needed it the most, and you'd felt gratitude toward the kindness shown to you and your husband, and now, as you'd become, able to, you are paying it forward, lending those in need, a helping, hand too.
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