I saw Inside Out 2 last week with my kids. If I am being honest, though, I saw the movie for my own enjoyment as much as theirs. Pixar movies always make me cry but they usually make me think too. In this case, the movie made me think about anxiety and mental health.
Of course, I am no stranger to anxiety. I have had it for most of my life, though I didn't know how to label it properly until well into my 30's. For this reason, I am glad Inside Out 2 is helping kids (and adults) think and talk about anxiety.
Here are the five truths about anxiety that the movie illustrates well.
1. Anxiety is different from fear.
Inside Out 2 starts when the main protagonist, Riley, turns 13. The movie demonstrates this formative time by introducing new "characters": Anxiety, Embarrassment, Envy, and Ennui.
Any Inside Out fans may find this odd, since Fear was already a character. As the movie correctly explains, though, fear and anxiety are different. Fear often relates to external situations, while anxiety relates to our inner experience.
In the film, Anxiety becomes obsessed with Riley's social status as a way to manage her nerves heading to middle school without her two best friends. Though Fear sees some logic behind this mission, even he's at a loss about the lengths to which Anxiety goes in pursuit of it.
The lesson for all of us watching, of course, is that anxiety and fear aren't the same. They may arise for different reasons and lead to different consequences.
2. Anxiety wants control.
The next truth about anxiety in Inside Out 2 is hard to miss. Anxiety wants control. In the movie, Anxiety shows up and promptly commandeers Riley's control panel. When the elder emotions we've come to know and love object, Anxiety bottles them up (literally) and ships them to Riley's subconscious.
The tricky thing about Anxiety, though, is that she's not a traditional Disney villain. She's got a sweet vulnerability about her and she truly thinks she's doing what is best for Riley. As we see, though, the quest for the "best" leads Riley to turn on her friends and behave unethically and inauthentically.
The resounding point made from all of this is that craving control is inherent to anxiety.
3. Control only creates more anxiety.
Anxiety quickly gets what she wants in Inside Out 2. She takes control and gets exactly what she wants. This should be the end of the movie, right?
Anyone who has experienced anxiety knows that, of course, this is wrong. Anxiety (the character and the emotion IRL) is never soothed by control. Instead, the more control anxiety gets, the more it craves.
As the movie shows, Anxiety assumes the control panel and immediately concocts schemes to get more control. She initially inspires Riley to raise in social status on her new team. When Riley finds a footing with new friends, Anxiety them pushes her to become the best on her team. Soon after, the goal escalates to the best in the team's history.
In the end, Anxiety becomes so obsessed with schemes and effort that she creates a little spiral in Riley's mind and a panic attack that leaves her frozen in fear. What this shows us is that what anxiety is often self-perpetuating. When anxiety gets more control, it is inflamed rather than pacified.
4. Letting go is the (super annoying) answer to anxiety.
I know it is truly obnoxious for a meditation teacher to tell a bunch of lawyers this, but the answer to anxiety is learning to let go. Fortunately for me, the people at Pixar seem to agree.
For some of us, it might have been satisfying to watch Joy, Sadness, Anger, and Disgust tag-team to knock Anxiety out, bottle her up, and jettison her to the subconscious. That's not what happens though, probably because it wouldn't really work.
Instead, to calm the spiral that Anxiety created, all the emotions circle around Riley's sense of self and hold it. Riley breathes and calms herself as this happens. When she comes back to herself, she admits her anxiety to herself and her friends and begs forgiveness.
This part of the movie is far more cathartic and satisfying to watch than it is to experience in real life. Letting go is the hardest lesson that anyone with anxiety can learn. Still, the truth remains, that letting go and learning to be with anxiety (which may include help from others) is an answer to it.
5. Anxiety is a part of life.
Since it is a kids movie, it's not too much of a spoiler to say that Inside Out 2 ends on a happy note. Riley learns a life lesson. She takes a step forward into adolescence. And she seems to find some sense of peace as she navigates the tricky social system that is middle school.
The principal blocking force of the movie, though, is still there. Anxiety doesn't go away at the end of the movie. There's no guarantee that Joy will resume her place as the guiding force in Riley's life. There's no doubt that even more complicated emotions are poised to greet Riley as she gets older.
One can only assume that Anxiety will claim control again and, at times, wreak havoc. This is the last and, perhaps, hardest truth from Inside Out 2. For many of us, and definitely for myself, anxiety is not something that goes away. It's a part of life for many of us.
If we are lucky, like Riley, we might be able to start recognizing how it shows up in our lives and where it leads us. We can then ease back, take a breath, ask forgiveness, get help, course correct, and then move forward.
Conclusion
Inside Out 2 may be a kids movie with a classic coming of age story about growing up. If you pay attention, though, the movie reveals truths about mental health for all of us regardless of our age. Though it is a cute cartoon family film about a young teenager, it offers lessons about anxiety, control, acceptance, and letting go that can benefit us all.
Want to try some meditation practices to help you hold and be with anxiety? Check them out here or on Insight Timer.
Want to learn more about mindfulness and compassion? Check out my new book, How to Be a Badass Lawyer, for a simple guide to creating a meditation practice of your own in 30 days. And to share mindfulness with your little one, check out my new children's book, Mommy Needs a Minute.
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