Two top tactics used by repressive regimes like China are to withhold information, which is harder to do with the internet, and stop people from expressing themselves. What about your expression? As tempting as it …
Two top tactics used by repressive regimes like China are to withhold information, which is harder to do with the internet, and stop people from expressing themselves.
What about your expression?
As tempting as it might be to tell your boss, clients, family or friends that they're idiots in desperate need of an attitude adjustment, it may not be your best choice. There are times to speak up and times to put things in perspective.
However, if they cross the line by treating you like yesterday's trash, then it's time to express yourself… with as much grace and ease as possible.
I learned this lesson while existing in "a living hell."
During my twenties, tormented in a five-year relationship that wrecked my health and happiness, I had a dream. For the longest time I kept its message on my dresser, although I didn't know what it meant or how to do anything about it:
Find the Heart and Rescue It
It took me a while to realize that, although to the world he appeared to be a wise, spiritual leader, I lived with a master manipulator who gaslighted me into not believing in myself. He knew my vulnerabilities and used them to intimidate and emotionally undermine me to bend me to his will.
I was bullied to let go of my business and with it financial freedom. He listened in on my phone conversations. He even left me stranded in a southwestern desert at 3 PM in the middle of the summer as he drove away – to return 30 minutes later.
The stress of what my life had become short-circuited my adrenals, thyroid, blood sugar and more – so I wasn't even able to speak my words in the right order or have physical energy to move.
Enabling this was a belief he imparted that I bought into that there was something wrong with me.
Human traffickers and terrorists use similar tactics. Intimidate with threats and play on low self-esteem to create a lack of confidence and dread. Immobilize people through fear of what might happen.
My unhappiness induced me to question and think.
There was his reality, but was it true?
How did I get here? I made a bad choice, which put me on a sorrowful path. Regardless of good choices I subsequently made, I was still on the wrong path.
I had to listen to my heart, my truth, and not give my power away. Even if others claimed to know more or be an authority. Even at risk of losing worldly goods.
Even with my perceived HUMILIATION that, once again, I made a mistake.
Actually, it was my ego's need to protect this self-image that held me back the most.
My survival ultimately depended on my ability to listen to my guidance, SPEAK UP TO MYSELF and not be cowered into obedient "silence and submission."
When I got honest with me, changes occurred that made my exit easy. I was packed and gone in three weeks.
What life do you want to live? Are you living it? Are you willing to honestly speak up, at least to yourself, and acknowledge what's in your heart?
How can you access your truth? It's always within you.
Breathe deeply in a relaxed way.
Call forth your soul. It's not complicated to do. It's your true Self!
Request clear communication.
Ask questions, such as:
Why are things happening in my life this way?
What's the truth about a situation?
What's the best direction for me to focus on now?
What action is best to take?
Write or draw your answers. Journaling is a useful tool to speak out and let you know what's happening within.
If you need more clarity, ask again. If it doesn't come in that moment, the answers will make themselves known at a better time.
Ready to make your life easier?
Choose to learn your lessons GENTLY.
Choose to make changes with ease and grace.
Choose to take action on your inner guidance.
The more you speak up, the more you'll live your life on your terms.
This edited Soulgoals' post was first published on May 8, 2011.
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