The matter of, secrets, should we keep 'em, for our young, or should we tell our spouses about them??? Translated…
I'd gone to preschool to pick my three-year-old daughter up, and she saw me, then, started, "daddy, I have a secret, just for you, you can't tell mommy!" As I'd heard her told me, I'd thought, finally, it's, MY turn now.
Growing up in a family with a strict mom, dad's always been our, best, listener. And so, growing up, all of our worries, the upsets, the discomforts of puberty, to the major life decisions we are making as adults, we'd both, gone to dad to discuss, and, we'd always begun by stating to our father, "Don't tell mom!", but, as I grew older, I'd thought, that something, wasn't, quite right, because it seemed, that mom always, knew the secrets that dad and I, shared, and, there was, that CRACK, in my father's, promise to, not tell. Until one day, as I'd just finished telling dad, "don't tell mom, okay?" as I received his guarantee that he wouldn't, I'd, gotten right into what I wanted to tell, while my older brother just, burst out in laughter, "after you're done telling him, he'll immediately go and tell mom!", and, dad just, smiled bitterly, and denied it.
As my daughter told me what was on her mind, I'd, made the affirmations, that she did NOT want me to tell mom. After battling it out, I'd finally, decided, to keep this, secret for her, to NOT tell my wife. It's just, that this didn't last, because the little girl started, blabbing, soon enough, and, the secret is, no more. I let out a breath of, relief then, then, I shall, experience, what it's like, to be a daddy, with the secrets the next time then!
And, this, just showed, how kids need that confidant in an adult, and, it's up to us, adults, to weigh and measure, if we should or should not, tell our spouses (1 @ a time!), of the secrets that our young children poured into our ears, because, betraying their trust, well, that's, going to have, an adverse, effect on their lives that's for sure!
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