The socializing of a young toddler who's shy around strangers, and the creative methods that this mom thought of works, for now…translated…
My three-year-old daughter was like me when I was young, grateful for those who'd shown kindness to me, but is too shy to say thank you to those who offered her the assistance she'd needed. Encouraging my daughter to verbally express her gratitude, became one of the uneasiest lesson I'd ever had to, teach to her.
Once there was a family reunion, and my daughter was quite selective of the foods served to her, and her aunt fulfilled her needs, and it was time for my husband and I to reminder her to "say thank you" to her aunt, and yet, the words got, stuck in her, throat, she'd wanted to say it, but couldn't. As the time passed, as her primary caretaker, I'd started, sitting on the pins and needles, like there was that spotlight of "how well you trained your child" shining brightly down on me.
I'd reminded myself to stop being so anxious, and thought, that my daughter also needed to be, understood.
I'd whispered into her ears, "it's okay, you may be a bit shy, then, I'll, put aside your shyness in a box for now, then, you can say, thank you, how's that?", I'd reached for her chest, and made movements like I was, removing something from her heart. And at the very moment, my daughter's eyes lit up, lifted her head, smiled at her aunt, and said, "thank you!"
And yet, the temporary removal of this "box of shyness" stopped working so effectively six months after this. A while back, her older male cousin had come back from the U.S., and he'd found her favorite toys that she'd misplaced in our home then, handed it to her, my daughter buried her head into my lap, wanted to say something, but, couldn't again.
I'd had a thought, told her, "You're a toy bunny that can speak, mommy pulls on the switch, and you can say 'thank you'.", I'd pressed down on her back, "ding!", and she'd, immediately told her older male cousin thank you, and the two of them burst into laughter. Mission accomplished, I was about to, press that "off switch" on my daughter's back, my husband told me, "leave it on for good!", compared to turning the switches on and off, fully charging her with love is, way more, important!
Compared to the methods of conning the children to behave as they are supposed to, the warmer, more creative means would work better with my daughter. I'm certain, that as we set the examples for her, and be patient with her, always give her encouragements, that sense of security that came from us socializing her with the love we have, will, help her become, braver in expressing herself.
So, this is a creative way that this mother came up with, to help her own young overcome her introverted personality traits, and, eventually, the child will grow out of this, but, for now, it still, works, and the methods trained the daughter to be a little more outgoing, a step at a, time.
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