allthingsgodlypretty posted: " Years or months have passed since you hired your nanny. However after so many years, the relationship may have just become stale. This does not mean the nanny is no longer good nor does it mean you are a bad employer. There are many things that g" All Things Godly and Pretty
Years or months have passed since you hired your nanny. However after so many years, the relationship may have just become stale.
This does not mean the nanny is no longer good nor does it mean you are a bad employer. There are many things that go on in a relationship and one of the most ignored relationship is one with your nanny.
It may be time you revisited this relationship to see if its really working and if not taking the responsibility as a leader to fix it.
Blame
The silent killer of most relationships is the blame game. As much as you may feel justified in this, there will never be a real solution to blaming your nanny for everything going wrong in the household.
It is always easier to blame the nanny for everything that goes wrong yet it is not the best option.
It would help to look at all aspects and what you can do to help the situation because you are the leader. How a household is run depends on how you lead your home.
Issues Of Concern
She does not listen
She does what she wants
She is no longer good
People do get tired as i am a witness in my own life as a mom that works fulltime. Doing the same job can be tiring and when no one appreciates the work you do except complain can affect your moral and lower your productivity.
We desire change, spontaneity, novelty, creativity, acknowledgement,involvement, to be appreciated, to be cared for and to make our environment conducive for working.
A Conducive Environment & Equipment
Providing work gear
Working utensils and equipment like brooms, mops, vacuum, soaps, cleaning material, running water, buckets.
Food for the children and nanny
Salary
Leave days
These are the things that make the nanny's job much easier and more manageable. Our responsibility as an employer is to make sure that all these are available so your nanny is in a worry free space to carry out all her duties.
Guess what?
We all get weary, we all complain at some point about our jobs but if you have a good nanny you most definitely want to retain the good nanny.
We all know that retaining a nanny is not so easy just as finding a good nanny is challenging.
We know there are things you cannot compromise like children's safety, feeding children well consistently, attitudes and more. However there are those little things that you loosen up.
Its good to learn to treat people well and i have learnt that thanking people and acknowledging them in areas they excel in makes a big difference. If they are good, they appreciate that and want to do better in every area.
Next time when its your nanny's birthday, get a cake so she enjoys with her family.
A token of appreciation does so much in areas where they feel they have been ill treated. It heals and opens room for communication, healing and the desire for them to improve areas they had neglected.
Putting Order And New life In Your Home
[ ] Take Resposinbility
The success of each home depends on the leaders, the parents on the home. You cannot place the success of your home in the hands of your nanny.
You are responsible for your household and the direction it takes. Putting blame strips you off the power to change any thing that may be disorder to you and even if you feel there is a lot of work to do. You can start the journey and see the fruits of of change in your home.
For example maybe you feel the children are losing so much weight, maybe its time you trained your nanny on how much they should feed the children and how often.
We do come from different homes amd we really need to acknowledge that each home does things differently. So your nanny may be used to giving her own children smaller or fewer meals per day.
Its possible to change things, take responsibillity and initiate the change. Complaining will not change the situation
[ ] Put Yourself In Her Shoes Learn to be considerate and just teach yourself to care about other people who are not related to you.
Changing a nanny is tough on the whole family especially the children. So if you find a good one, retain the good nanny and consider her challenges and ways to make her life much better too. When people work for you, let their lives improve for the better.
Consider things like leave days, maternity leave and salary reviews too so that even when they compare themselves to the industry they have not reason to quit on you.
It is a good thing to allow your nanny time to rest and recharge so they are able to be productive and to enjoy their salary too.
Unless you have a nanny that really frustrates you and quite toxic then you may consider changing the nanny for the sake of the children to live in a happy and hostile free environment.
[ ] Communicate Well Learn to speak well and observe your own body language too. Know when to speak and when to be quiet. You are building a home where your children remain with the nanny. Build with your tounge rather than destroying.
When you are angry it may mot be wise to correct but allow yourself to be in a calm state so you build a relationship with the one who looks after your children.
There is a way you say things as you express yourself. Even if there was a misunderstanding, you find yourself in a position to fix things.
What breaks down communication is assuming that she knows everything she is supposed to do. Many things yes, however somethings she may not view the way you do.
Sitting down and explaining will save you a lot of energy being frustrated and being noble towards your nanny and stating things well.
[ ] Recreate A Healthy Relationship It is always easier to recreate a healthy relationship with your spouse, family members, children, friends, colleagues but just not one with your nanny.
This means you pay attention to how you treat her, what you say and be the boss that is genuinely concerned about her wellbeing. You cannot make it look as if you care, its either you care or do not.
There are certain practises that may help like offering off days, half days, cleaning material and generally providing things that makes her job easier.
[ ] Reward And Praise Give honour where it is due. There are areas where she excels, by all means show your appreciation instead of complaining all the time about everything. If she is a good nanny, surely there is something she is doing well.
I realised that recently i was constantly complaining about my nanny yet i remember she is amoung the best nannies. However we get used to people and take them for granted, sometimes because we are too focused on other things we forget to appreciate.
No matter how much you complain about things but when you offer praise and reward where you can, anyone strives to do better in all other areas.
[ ] Involvement Have a way to involve her in her work. How can she improve other areas and how can you as an employer make her life easier in her job. Allow her to express that so you can have something to improve too as a leader.
[ ] Salary Review I am suggesting that it may help to have a competitive salary. That is one advise i got as i was struggling with finding a nanny. Knowing the average salary and giving a competitive one.
I may be parting with a some good money but i have peaceful nights and stress free mornings. I also know that i have someone's life that i am improving and contributing towards.
Things change though, so review the salary and benefits from time to time and when there are changes. Changes like adding a new baby to the family or getting a bigger house may come with exoectations of a salary increase.
Talk about those things with each other as family then talk to your nanny if you know you are still strapped to increase the salary.
If You know your nanny is giving you challenges, makes excuses to be absent, does not feed the children well and other things you cannot compromise on. It may be time to have a conversation with her but know how to speak well then if it does not work. Make options to change her but pay her well and read a post on recruiting a new nanny.
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