52EssaysNextWave 49/52 52SlicesOfChingonaLife
As I was reading the other day, these words jumped out at me.
Stop holding yourself to unrealistically high standards that you don't impose on anyone but yourself.
Stop setting yourself up for failure by creating impossible goals and metrics for you to abide by.
I struggle with caregiving. I struggle at dealing with the "mountain" of paperwork. To the point of not getting anything done at all. Then the guilt starts, I'm not doing things right, I'm not doing the right thing, it's got to be done a certain way, it's all on me. Every day I'm doing the praying and worrying thing...everything else except what needs to be done.
Stop justifying quitting by calling yourself a perfectionist.
I want things to be just right. However, as caretakers know, sometimes there is no right or wrong way, sometimes you just have to do it. Sometimes you have to make hard calls, sometimes it will not be perfect. I've decided to try to do the right thing always, not the perfect thing, the right thing.
You aren't a perfectionist. You're a human. And humans are never perfect and regularly make mistakes.
The thing is, it is NOT all on you, you are part of a village of people, of resources available to help you. It's ok to feel unsteady, to be unsure of HOW to do what needs to be done. This doesn't just apply to caretaking either, it applies to all areas of your life. Make that call, send that email, face the paperwork, ask for help. So what I will do now is say a little prayer over the mountain of paperwork, take it one page at a time, and repeat the following words.
The difference between those who succeed & those who don't is those who succeed don't quit at the first sign of a struggle.
They fail. And fail. And fail their way to success.
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