| Hi read,
How are you today? How's everything going? Are you looking forward to the celebration of all things you do this weekend? Yes? Maybe? Not at all?
This isn't going to be one of the many emails you get in your inbox that only says Happy Mother's Day! Nope! We're going to talk about how you can get the Mother's Day you want! Yes, you read that right.
Before I get started, I do hope that you have a Happy Mother's Day! I hope you feel celebrated and loved.
I'll be honest. This wasn't how I felt for years. For years Mother's Day left me feeling disappointed. I had such high hopes for the day, but it never was quite what I wanted. I felt deflated and unappreciated.
So, what changed? I was tired of not enjoying Mother's Day. So, years ago I changed my approach. And I got specific with what I wanted, including food options, activities, etc. Really specific. Now, I make suggestions on what I want for a gift and what I want to avoid. (I don't do housework on Mother's Day weekend; that 100% falls on the hubby and kids -- yay!). Sometimes I send links for several options so there is still an element of surprise.
Yes, I understand the idea of: "How does my spouse/significant other not already know this?" Let's move past that. Mindreading is a very unusual skill.
And let's be honest. After the challenges of the pandemic, you're version of Mother's Day might have changed. This might be the perfect year to have a different kind of day.
Want a spa day? Maybe you want time alone away from everyone. Looking for some alone time to binge your favorite Netflix shows? Want a day with your own mom? Do you want to eat ice cream all day or lay in your backyard if the weather is nice and simply hang out as a family? Do a hike? Looking for a lovely brunch at your favorite restaurant? So many options!
You get to decide what you want. Take a moment to create an image of pure bliss in your head. Have you got it? OK, so ask for it. You don't have to explain why. Ask for what you need for a few hours or the whole day.
A few things to keep in mind (it's helpful to keep these in mind always when you're asking for something):
Be as specific as you need to be. If you're not specific, it's hard to get what you want. If you're OK with going with the flow, share that and let others take the lead. Do what works for you.
You might need to do some research. For example, you might need to research a spa, new restaurant, etc. It's a bit of work, but it hopefully lets you get the day you want.
Be flexible and give grace. This year might be a year of figuring out a new Mother's Day normal. It might not be exactly what you want but it will be closer. Things will move in the right direction. Also, be gentle with yourself. If you're asking for something new, that can come along with new emotions. Give yourself some space to feel all the feels.
You know what you want and now you've got a better idea of how to get it. Now imagine this. It's Monday morning after Mother's Day and you're feeling appreciated and seen, and your cup is full. How does that make you feel?
Here's one thing to keep in mind as you do this. The idea is not to do the plan and do all the work yourself. You do enough planning and work for your family most of the time. Mother's Day can be a day for others to do the heavy lifting.
I really do hope you get the day you want (I'd love to hear more about it if you're willing to share!)! Happy Mother's Day, mama! You're doing an amazing job and I hope you feel special and celebrated!
Sending so much love and positive energy your way,
Suzanne
PS Don't forget to share these with a friend or colleague. She'll thank you!
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