There is no manual for parenting, but it is a lifelong and extremely important task. You either release a productive and progressive human or you release an abusive nincompoop. Either way, once you give birth, you have for to provide with merely precedence that often has nothing to do with you, the era and the human you are expected to grow.
Like every project, the best approach is to study your specimen, study not jump into exploring. Fortunately, it's a human and can communicate in more ways than one, visual, verbal, contact etc.
We often underscore the need for clear communication with people. Regardless of age, nationality, religion or gender, clear comments is quite critical.
A number of hooligan adults were birthed through bad communication often initiated as a fixer by an authority in their lives.
Parents shuts them up at age two then wonders why they never have an opinion at age 7. Teachers talk down at them, then wonders why they never have raise their hands in class. Caregivers hits and blames them for all their woes and society goes on to imprint this words by trying to define the kids by these words
The kid grows to a teen and tries to correct the impressions as a teenager but is then accused of being up to no good, after all, every adult around knows been good is not in the child's character so there must be an evil plan behind the child ile or kindness.
It only takes a while for such a child to give up on being nice to avoid trouble and just be what people say he is. The alternative would be to change neighborhood which is often not an option till the adaptive habits are well ingrained
So you see, the bad child in your neighborhood is often the result of a number of adult influence and that guilt tripping is why you all often let the small crimes slide till it gets out of hand
Because, you knew that you had a number of opportunities to say something nice, comforting, and even productive but you stood by and backed an adult because the downtrodden was a child.
At every stage, you, as a parent needs to stand firm and let your child know you are with them. Be the adult that projects their childish defense. But first, you have to establish the communication link that helps you understand enough to stand and communicate to the world on behalf of your child.
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