Giving the adolescents a safe place, to tell their troubles to someone, this is, absolutely, necessary, because as teenagers, NONE of us tell our parents, anything, and, we shouldn't keep everything bottled up, as that would be, unhealthy, and this is when the therapists come in…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
In the various stages of our lives, we would need the help of someone else, because we are, slowly becoming, imbalanced. A hundred years ago, Milner of England was asked to conduct a study for the all-girls' academy on education, she'd stated, that the traditional forms of education only paid attention to knowledge, but that was only half of how people connect to the world, if we separate logic and feelings, then, we can't have full meaning of our, lives.
Our society went from the onion type families, with the layers interconnecting with each other, into the string bean type, with the separated generations. From before, when something is on the children's minds, they have other families to talk to, or to, weave between the various lives within an extended family, to use as role models, and they're given the opportunities to daydream, and get lost in their own, thoughts; and now, the schedules of the children, are all, zoomed in under the parents' sights, and, there's only, that ONE value that ranked supreme, the child's ability development, is ignored, or even, stripped away from them. Berges who'd published on modern families predicted then, that families like these, are weak in support, and are in need of the related experts to help out.
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I'd recalled how when my own children was young, once he'd felt, upset, he'd gone to an aunt he'd trusted in our community to talk with her about what was bothering him, he'd not talked to his own mother, at first, I was, a bit, shocked, then, I'd felt happy for him, that he can, find the resources he'd needed, such an amazing child he was!
The minds of adolescents, is said to be closest to the minds of our, ancestors', with the collective consciousness, and the wisdoms from the collective consciousness, that we can't quite, understand. Before we reach our rebellious teenage states, I'd often, existed quietly, and respectfully with them, I needed to take a lot of time, to understand them. Living in this, unfamiliar world to them, the children have different mindsets, and feelings, they're, delicate, sensitive, in pain, in doubt, they also want to gain the loves of their parents, but they may not know how to achieve this.
Many a year ago, a troubled mother came to me, that her middle school age daughter played the video games endlessly, she was angry, anxious, and it all came out in the sketches; it isn't easy for the daughter to change, and, it wouldn't be too soon that this mother, accepts her own daughter's change. Another case's mother was also upset, that her son had been, kidnapped by the world of his, cellphone; through the art therapies and looking back, the mother accidentally saw, that being unloved by her own parents, had caused the adverse effects on her own, son. Another father, his psychologically ill son had caused him a lot of troubles, through therapy, he saw his own son's special abilities, and, learned to give the positive feedbacks that his son was, in need, of.
Another mother, took her son, who's almost burned out completely, to the art therapy, no need for words, we'd first, allowed the artistic to come out, using the paste, with the various colors of paints, using the hands, started, smearing up the canvases made of papers. Then, we hung all the work up, looking around, using an open mind, to explore, what these artworks are, telling to us? Yes, there was that painting, that was so full of, life, signaling at how strong the life force was in that particular child, but, he'd been, crushed, by the twisted values of, society.
Returning back to the actor, Liang, he said, "being a good person, it's not for anyone else's sake…in the end, you still have to, answer to yourself.", get your children to therapy, in the difficult times of their lives, they can have someone who accompany them, and, having a healthy enough mind, then, the child will have what it takes, to face the world on her/his, own.
So, there should NOT be any taboos on getting your children to therapy, it just gives them an alternative place to pour their hearts out, I mean, how many of us as teens, would want to talk to our own parents about our, troubles? That's, next to none, and, therapy can, provide that safe place, where the child can just, be free to express whatever is troubling her/him.
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