How you're now, using the same patience, same kindness, same respect and love your father gave to you, in caring for him in his, elderly, years, because he loved you, right! Translated…
I'd not gone home to visit for a long, long time, finally, I saw dad, and his hair had turned, completely, all, white, he'd, walked with his back, hunched over, although my father is already eighty-nine years old, he'd always been agile, and healthy, and we never needed to, worry over, him. Especially when he'd played tennis from when he was, younger, it's just, that in recent years, his tennis buddies are slowly gone, one by one, he'd not played for over a year now, and, it'd caused him to have, osteoporosis, at the start of the year, as he rode out on his bicycle, he'd lost his balance, and fell, and was rushed to the hospital, and he had a fractured spine, needed the medications, and to wear an iron clad vest. But, in only, four months, dad didn't follow mom's orders, insisted on riding his bicycle out, and on the way back he'd, fallen to the ground again, and this time, he needed the hospitalization to get the surgeries to get his hips replaced, he'd become, immobilized, and, needed physical therapy for an even, longer period of time from before.
My father who's normally sturdy and strong, became, a changed man, not only did he lose his appetite, lost a lot of, weight, he'd, become, disinterested, unmotivated in physical therapy, seemed he had a lot on his, mind.
when you were, young...photo from online
Every time I'd called home, I'd always reminded him to follow the doctor's orders, to exercise, and to eat right, but it seemed, not be enough, to help him find his zest for life, back again. And I'd, recalled, how when I was younger, I was awful in mathematics, and couldn't figure out the logic behind the equations, while dad had, always, stayed by my side, and explained the problems to me, step, by step, and, it usually takes three, four hours for me to finish my work; and, feeling upset, with dad's constant encouragements, I'd started, doing better, and, although I still, wasn't, excellent in school, I always, carried that, positive attitude for learning because of him. To this very day, I'm still, mediocre, but, with the drives to keep working hard, and a ton of, stamina, everything that I'd become, is credited to my father's, being a, good role model to me.
And so, I'd, used the same attitude of encouragement on dad, "keep going, dad, you'd, done four laps today so far!", "not bad, did you finish a whole bowl? Amazing!" when I got home, the whole family would go to his favorite restaurant to dine, seeing how he'd, downed, a full bowl of rice, and finished all the food from his hotpot, suddenly, I'd felt, that the role of parent and child was switched for my father and I, and, I'd come to note, that no matter how old we get, we needed the encouragement, and support from our, loved, ones. And now, it's my turn, to give my father his, needed, boosts, I want to tell him, "everything will get better, just you wait and see!"
and now, as he, ages...you'd become, willing to, be there for him too, as he was there for you when you were, younger...photo from online
And so, this is because the father put in the time, the energy, and the heart, in relating to his own children when they were, younger, and so, naturally, his children are now, willing, and able, to give everything back to him, and this way of relating to one another, is long established, when the writer was still a young child, with her father, showing her the right ways to behave, being, a good role model for her.
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