Why we should NOT do EVERYTHING for the M-E-N we're, MARRIED, to, because that spoiled them all, rotten, because they will all, become, overly, reliant on us, because they will, SUCK all of us DRY, because we allow them to! Translated…
On the weekend holidays, I'd gone back to the midstrip of the island for a reunion, afterwards, my good friend gave me a lift home, on the way, she's suddenly started up, "originally, my uncle had asked me to go to Northern Vietnam with him for eight days!", I'd asked her, "then why aren't you going?", she'd skillfully worked the steering wheel, answered me, "because I'm worried that my husband would have to eat eight days' worth of instant noodles straight, I can't let him do that!"
I'd baldly told her that there was a way to resolve this, prepare eight different flavors of instant noodles for him, a different flavor a day, and, as he'd finished his last bowl, his wife would be, home, maybe, her husband would think that this was interesting, but, unfortunately, she'd not, taken, my advice.
and here's the RESULT, of waiting on them hand and foot, the BIRTHS of ENORMOUS, BABIES, that can't stand up on their own! Photo from online
For a very long time, my good friend who's quite gentle, mild-mannered, took good care of her in-laws, when her father-in-law was in the hospital for his stay, she'd brought him the foods, fed them to him, assisted him in bathing, changing in and out of his clothes, solely because her husband worked, and she'd not wanted to burden him with the care of his own father, because camping out at the hospital was way too gruesome for him. Although, she'd owned and operated a small manufacturing plant for the facial masks, she'd still made the meals for her families, she believed that it was within her responsibilities to do so.
And now, her in-laws are gone, the kids had all grown, she was no longer required to care for the young and the old in her families, but, because of her husband's not being able to get the foods, it'd, kept her tied up at home, unable to travel away for a long period of time.
I'd told her in a, serious manner, "I'd read an article, that the wife in the article was too able-bodied, after she married, she'd given to her families completely, and even when she'd returned back to her own parents, she'd only stayed for the lunch, then, rushed back to her husband's household, because she believed, that without her, her children and her husband couldn't look after themselves. Later, she'd died after falling ill, her good friend thought about her worries, and paid her husband and her children a visit; but, the house was, just as tidy as she'd left it, the kids were, fed nutritiously every meal, there was, also, a brand new, car in the garage, while her husband, was spirited, as he'd, welcomed her into their home."
As she'd heard me, she'd started, laughing, actually, this wasn't a joke at all, what's untold that came afterwards, was that in a version, the husband hired a maid, in another, he'd remarried a younger, beautiful wife to take care of the house for him, it's just, that the younger new wife, did NOT have to work her hands to the bones.
Women really need to love themselves well, and stop calling your husbands, "head of the house", because if you do, then, you will always and forever get STUCK in being, their, MAIDS!"
My good friend told me, "but, my husband called me, "the master", then, I'd said to her, "so, your husband is the eunuch character that stays and serve the empress dowager, and, the eunuch in these tales only need to keep the empress dowagers happy, there's NO cases of the shows that's portrayed the eunuchs for having to do the chores?", after that, we'd both, burst out in laughter in the car. "Then, what do you call your, husband?", she'd inquired, of course I'd called him, "honey!", because, my dear honey will always, cherish and love his own, wife, and fought over the household chores, wouldn't feel right, if his dearly beloved wife, need to do the chores!
And so, this is, the case of two different women, and how they'd viewed serving the husbands differently, one, the friend is used to being, the MOMMY, the HOUSEHOLD MAID for her husband, due to socialization, the other, takes it easy from time to time, she'd done her share of the chores, but, leaving the rest to her husband to manage, after all, a marriage is a partnership, and if one of you does too much, then the other doesn't need to do that much, and, if this unbalanced relationship keeps on going, the scale will one day, tilt and tip over, then, boom! Heading for the BIG D…would be the end of that, unhappily ever, after.
So, STOP spoiling your men, don't do ALL the chores around the house, and wait on them, hand and, feet! After all, all those stupid men had already been, SPOILED ROTTEN by their mamas, and, if you, as their wives, keeps on, spoiling them rotten, then, you'd only be, slaving yourselves, and for what? NOTHING!
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