comparing the apples to the oranges, because other than both being fruits, they got, NOTHING in common, and you shouldn't even compare fuji with pink lady to begin with in the first place, so, why are all of you, parents, doing that? Because that's how your own, parents compared you against your, younger or, older, siblings, is that it??? Translated…
From the Weekly Journal Assignments, I Got Glimpses of How the Connections of the Sisters are Deep or Shallow, and, Most of it is From the Parents' Educating Them, and the Parents', Attitudes…………
The parents want to see how their young are getting along? The answer may lie in how the kids are sleeping on the same bed together, how they'd, shared their toys, reading together; and as they grew older, their willingness to let each other have the limited resources, how they sat together and shared heart-to-hearts, how they're, connected emotionally. What's worst, is how the siblings could, fight each other in court, to get the assets, to push one another to the edges, to declare the severing of the blood ties.
Awhile ago, the media reports that a famed physician stated publicly she was to sever all ties with her older sister who's a singer. The singer's younger sister mentioned, that for over twenty years, she'd lived in her older sister's, shadows, and couldn't be her own, self, she'd especially cared that her father loved her older sister more, and would stay by her side more often, that she'd gotten, barely any of her parents', attention; the news media pointed out that because of her parents' favoritism, causing her to feel unbalanced, and she'd admitted it, "a little bit", and, severing off ties with her older sister, she'd only, wanted, some peace from that unbalanced, state of mind she'd been, living under.
Reading upon this, I'd felt, really, sad. From what's been written from the news report, I still can't get at how the sisters interacted, nor can I, note the parents' attitude in raising them; the younger sisters' posting of severing off relational ties with her older sister, based off of what's written, it's not easy for the readers to deduct why. Or maybe, it's how the parents treated the sisters differently, that's, caused this.
I worked as a homeroom instructor for an all female high school, there are a pair of sisters who attended, they were diverse in temperament; from the weekly journals they turned in, I got to peep at their relationship, and found that it has to do with how their parents educated them.
"Although they're both wearing the prestigious school uniforms, in the parents' eyes, the older is the rainbow in her parents' eyes that came out after the rain, when the sun start shining out, and I'm, only, the dying colors of the, dusk. In the college entrance, my older sister was accepted to the prestigious university's medical department, while my future, not yet, known." The second-year high school student, wrote in the weekly journal, and described the differences between her and her older sister, using the natures of the colors of sunset and the rainbow.
and it goes, WAY, beyond, this too! Photo from online
I'd given her the feedback, "both the rainbow and the light of dusk, are from the reflection and refraction of the sunlight, the light of sunset, had been refracted through the dewdrops, that's why it'd looked, lighter, it's basically identical with the rainbow. Don't sell yourself short, no need to keep on being bothered by this, you got into this school, that means, you have what it takes, do have faith and confidence in yourself. I believe, that your older sister had accumulated her knowledge base, that she'd continued working hard toward that goal, that's how she got to where she is, just continue to work hard."
"Yesterday, I'd had a heart-to-heart with my first-year younger sister, to share with her the troubles I'd come across when I entered into high school two years back, I'd told her, that she needed to follow the instructions of her homeroom instructor, to study the text hard, to treat her textbooks like her best friend. I hope she'll take my, advice, and start carrying the habits of reading the text and taking notes in her first year.", this last year student described my advice in her weekly journals, hoping that her younger sister who's a first-year student in high school, can understand the importance of reading, and to develop her own thinking skills. I'd given her the feedback, "your younger sister is so blessed to have you, a good older sister can, settle her heart down."
illustration from UDN.com
We are born from the same cloth, why must we, push each other to the edges; we are, from the, same blood. Like the song by Amei Chang, "Sisters": No Matter How Far We're, Apart, You are My Sister, Cherish This, Connection.
So, this is, how it'd felt, for the younger child, to always be compared to the older son or daughter, and, growing up under an older brother or sister's shadows, that's not good at all, because, you're being, compared to your older siblings, in their scholastic performances, how they got a good job, how they graduated top of their classes, and look at you.
If you're raised by this sort of negative attitude of constantly being compared to your older siblings, then, it will cause you to feel that you are not, good enough, and this is still from the parents' beliefs, and if you're a parent, do watch what you say in front of your children, because WE still take everything, to HEART, whether or not we like it! Comparing children is NEVER right, and yet, parents can't help, but measure one kid against another, for some, unknown, reasons…
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