The parents, worrying about their daughter, not yet getting married, and, she's, growing older every single, day here, translated…
It's made me laugh until I'd cried after reading Ms. Wang's "The Blind Date that Ended Up in Tears Afterwards", and, afterwards, I'd felt, deeply connected to the article. I'd, introspected, I will, NEVER again, set my youngest daughter up on a blind date again.
My youngest, who's past marrying age, is a good girl with the inner beauty and beautiful looks. Or maybe, it's, the God of Love who'd, overlooked her, forgotten to connect her with her future husband, as she's approaching the lowest deadline for having children, she's still, single and waiting.
like this! Photo from online
As parents, we naturally worried like crazy, worried that she won't have anyone to grow old with; worried that if she were to fall ill in her old age, nobody will care for her, nobody will sign the consent for the surgeries she may be in need of. And so, my husband and I, used our connections, to set up the blind dates for her, hoping, that she will, find someone. And yet, just like the article by that writer, "the older generations' means of helping the younger generations match up, is purely by chance."
We only made sure, that the men we'd match our daughter with has a good job, a viable source of, income, then, we'd, encouraged her to go on a blind date with the person. Once, the matchmaker told, that the man graduated from a notable American university, and is working in a world top 100 company, that his parents are, nice, both Christians, and I'd, immediately asked the matchmaker to introduce the two of them.
That day as my daughter came from the matchmaking, we'd pressed her on it, and she'd told us, "the man is twice the size of dad, bald, large stomach, looked older than dad. What was worse, was that he'd worn a t-shirt with Elsa from Frozen to the blind date, and that Elsa shirt fitted way too tight on him, made his protruding stomach looked, even, bigger! I won't ever, DATE someone that looked like that!"
To prevent history from repeating, ever since, I would ask the person who was matching my daughter up to at least, see the individual, first. Yet, it never worked as we'd hoped it would, tragedy still, occurred. That time, the matchmaker swore, "the man is from a good background, with the perfect qualities. If your daughter isn't so beautiful, so excellent as he, I would've, never, made this, match." My daughter interacted with the man on LINE for six months, then I'd asked her what happened, she'd told me, she'd, stopped contact. "Why?", both my husband and I were, surprised. "He's too hard to hold a conversation with, always evading my questions, we're not on the same wavelengths, how old, is, he?"
Like the writer from the article stated, "nobody cared what I like, or what I don't like, and, the values of my is based off of finding that someone, who will, marry, me." Honestly, I have, NO clue of what type of men my daughter is, into, only worried too much, never asked her about the qualities she wanted in a man, just, hurried, and, once I hurried, I'd, lost my, senses, and, once I lose my senses, DISASTERS!
Marriage is never happily ever after, with the simple mind, and you get that, perfect, ending. Reviewing over my youngest daughter's life, she had been very, opinionated, very, wise, with the goals she'd set for herself, and, work hard toward those goals, why should I, worry?
Indeed, you shouldn't, but, I'm guessing, that you will, set your daughter up again, because, that's, how parents, worked, they all want us to marry, especially when we're, closing in on our, "expiration age" (whatever THAT means!), and, the parents won't, ease up on it, because they feel that their daughters are NO spring chickens, and with the biological clocks, ticking, ticking, ticking louder, louder, AND louder by the days, they'd, RUSHED, for us to get married, but why should we? When we're, happy alone, on our own, it's NOT like we need you, our parents, to take care of us, we can all, stand up on our own here!
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