Wow, she looks so much like that princess, and that's W-H-O I want to be, when I, grow up! Totally, WRONG here!!! But hey, little girls will BE, little girls, until they grow UP, and become, REAL, women…translated…
For a period of time, we'd found that our three-year-old daughter, was intrigued by the different mannequins in the display windows, whether it be from a couture shop, the jewelry stores, or the sportswear shops, she was, enlightened by them; every time we passed a window with these mannequins, she'd started screaming loud excitedly, "mannequin! Mannequin!", at age three, she'd gone to, several weddings with us, and, gotten a ton of wonderful memories.
One day we'd passed a bridal shop, my daughter stopped moving out of excitement, pulled on me, called out, "mommy, look, the mannequin turned into a bride!", we laughed loud, at her childish, words. But, looking into her eyes more closely, I found that light in her eyes then.
look at how happy she is...photo from online
From before the weddings we'd gone to, as the brides made their entrance, my daughter would be so impressed, "wow, so pretty!". Surely, that's, the behaviors of a, young girl, dreamy about wearing that wedding gown. While, she'd loved her own child's dress too, begged me, "Mommy, can I please wear this to school tomorrow, please, please, please!!!", I'd smiled and told her, "that won't do, you will run and hop in school, and your dress won't allow you to be agile, and it gets dirty too easily!"
To divert her attention, I'd asked her if she knew who the one standing next to the bride was, she'd responded, "her husband." I told her, "that's right, that's the husband of the bride, like how daddy is mommy's husband too.", she'd thought for a while, then added, "just like daddy, mommy, and me."
Even as she was still quite young, she'd already, structured the most basic setting of expectation for a marriage, and of her, family. All these observations, made me understood, that starting a family, having children, it's a, very long and never-ending, journey, not just that moment in time, when we dolled ourselves up, in our tuxes, and our, wedding gowns; and, as parents, we need to be role models to her, to SHOW her how the blessings we offered to the newlyweds at the weddings, can extend onward, after the ceremonies were, over.
the little flower girl with the bride! Photo from online
So stereotypical of, them, little girls, wanting to dress up pretty, in them, WHITE gowns, walk down the aisle (to commit suicide???), to the man standing by the PREACHER dude, and this is still a SHITTY way to socialize your own children, I mean, surely, maybe, you were socialized by this same methods, to believe, that I need to find my one and only true love, yada, yada, yada, and maybe you already had (or not, how the HELL would I know???), but, this is really awful, seeing how this young girl's ultimate GOAL is to grow up, dress in a pretty white wedding gown, march down that aisle, to get MARRIED!
This is totally WRONG, but hey, that's how us, baby girls had been, socialized, and there's no way of changing that, seeing how we got socialized by our own mothers, and they got socialized by their own mothers, to WORSHIP that institution (get INSTITUTIONALIZED, people!!!) of, MARRIAGE!
You have GOT to be SHITTING me on this…
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