Let the crying child cry it out completely, then, s/he will find a way, to resolve whatever upset had made her/him cry in the, first place, no need to shut them up! Translated…
"That's my precious bracelet, give it BACK!", in the warm winter afternoons, I'd, gone to walk the tracks, enjoying the hard-to-come-by warmth of, winter, I saw a young girl, lying on the rubber tracks, crying.
The child's mother and maternal grandmother kept trying to console with her, and yet, she still, cried on. She'd told and cried, repeated this for many a round, about half an hour later, the ladies who were exercising close by, other than pretending to not care, but paying attention to the three, started, discussing, "she can't even talk articulately, crying like this! Get her to quiet down first!", "Blocking the track here!", from the sniffles of the young girl, I'd, slowly, piece together what had, happened—after the rollerblading camp was over, the girl discovered that the bracelet she'd made had been lost, broken somewhere on the track, she'd spent a lot of time, and still couldn't, find it, seeing how the people are, leaving the tracks, the skies are, turning, darker, being upset, the child refused to give up on looking for what she'd, lost, and started crying, to express her, helplessness, her, desperation of not finding the bracelet that was, broken off of her, wrist.
what mothers should do...just be there, as the child cries, there's nothing that parents need to do, just accompany their young, as they, cry it all, out! Photo from online
Later, the mother of the child, couldn't withstand the looks of the bystanders that gathered, led the child who was still, sobbing, away from the track, and after that, the mother-daughter pair just, sat on that lawn, most of the time, the mother didn't say a word to the child, just, sat with her, as the child groomed through her own, emotions, until the night started, rolling in, and the child was no longer, crying, the two patted the grasses off of each other's body, then, left in, silence.
From as long as I'd remembered, crying was, not allowed in the, adult, world, and, tabooed in the, public places, and yet, this mother showed enormous amount of, understanding, tolerance for her young child, to allow her to express her emotions out, and gave her child the acceptance of her emotions that the child is in need of, patiently waited for her to collect herself, and, a mother's getting out of the socialized means of the structures of society, to truly, empathize the young child's, emotions, understand what the child is in need of, and then, give her the care, concern, and guidance, to help the child come to full acceptance of what she'd, lost.
Those who are blessed, are able to use the childhood years, to heal the entire, lifetimes, the child will, learn to groom through the losses that s/he encountered, and sort through the emotions due to the mother's, understanding of the child; while for me, it was, an important, lesson, in the past, the parts of my own self that got neglected through the years had, somehow, found their, resolves on their, own, I too, was, blessed by, this mother-daughter, pair as well.
So sometimes, as parents, we do NOT need to do anything, just let our children CRY it all, out, but, as adults, we'd, not been socialized that it is, okay to cry, to express our feelings in such a LOUD way (maybe not fully blown like a complete temper tantrum) but we'd all be socialized, that crying IS, bad, and what's worse, is that the society places such a huge taboo, on this way of expressing our, emotions, I mean, if we don't cry, how will we, get rid of the salt build up in our systems, I mean, unless you want to suffer from sever Na-K imbalance, which will lead to, more severe health problems, cry from time to time, it's okay.
It's still the SOCIETY's FAULT, I mean, who SAYS that grown men don't cry? And, where does it have the words, "CRYING is a BAD thing", written on some, handbooks or rulebook somewhere, huh??? Crying is, one of the, most, primitive form of expressing our needs, I mean, you CAN'T possibly EXPECT an INFANT to say, HEY yo old ladies, got a DODO in my diaper, it's giving my baby smooth, silky buttocks a RASH, come and CHANGE my diapers, can you? Of course, not, so the infants use crying to COMMUNICATE their needs to us, and as we are older, we use crying to EXPRESS our, emotions, and there's, absolutely, NOTHING wrong with that!
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