How the high-tech age made the parents into children and the children into experts who know more than their, adult counterparts…translated…
Rather than Feeling Awful by the Experts (the Children) We'd Raised from, Scratch, and Having Our Hearts of Glass Shattering, Why Not, Put Forth Our Willingness to Learn New Things, and Show This Genuinely………
Can you, swiftly operate the cell phone, the laptop, the T.V. or other streaming platforms' subscription contents? And, how do you handle it, when something difficult to handle, comes, up?
You Can't Even Do This? We'd All Hurt Our, Adult Counterparts Like This
In the earlier times, it's the grandparents' generations that faced most of these, issues: how do we send the photos to LINE or to FB? How do we share the greeting stickers? How do we download those games that helps us pass the times of boredom from the stores? We always, use this, to get the younger children to help us, to help them increase their sense of, achievement, and, told the children, to teach the ways slowly, step-by-step to their, grandparents, to be patient with the elders, and the like………..
Then, as the major problems came towards our generations, there are, more and more things, we can't, handle, and the kids also, took over, sorting through these, technical, difficulties for us. And, maybe, the parents felt, that hey, I was the one teaching from before, and now, I'm the learner, and, what's worse, is our kids added that final: "you can't even manage this, it's so simple!", that's managed to, shatter our, egos.
I'd recalled my superior after he retired from my job from before, after he'd retired, he'd also started learning how to operate a computer (felt like last century). He'd asked us, "how do I turn off the power switch?", not that hard, "on the left side corner beneath the desk!", then, he'd started, reaching around his wooden desk which he was, sitting in front of, "Nope! It's not, there!"
illustration from UDN.com
And, at the time, we were all, trying so very hard, to hold back our laughter, and in the end, we all, burst out laughing. And, this favorite manager of ours, kept his cool, maintained his stature, still smiled on, and allowed us, step-by-step, to teach him to click the mouse, to the start menus, and, power off. And, my uncle complained, that every time he'd listened in on everyone's conversations, he couldn't hear it clearly, or that he actually had a question, and we'd all, jokingly responded back, "you don't get it………", and he'd said, "although I know you are not trying to be mean, but, you'd all painted me out into someone who knows, absolutely, nothing, and it hurts! Are all elders, stupid?"
As We Became the Latter of the Class in the Means of Technological Development
So, this is, the giant wheels of, time then? No, no, that's the ways of stating it from before, now, it's, the "tears of the times"? When we'd, lagged behind, like the bottom half of the class that can't seem to, get our grades up, we are laughed at by the students with better grades, that we're, out-of-sorts, too foolish, not moving, that we lacked the means of understanding, then that would be when we get reminded of all those, annoying questions that our elders asked us about, how we'd, simply, can't find ways to teach them to do that, task, then, we'd begun wondering, are we now the ones, who'd become, "unintelligent"? or like that trending soap opera of the "Queen of Tears"?
The most simple means is to, work hard, and catch up to what the younger generations are, into, that way, it can, reduce that feel of anxiety of the older generations, in the, generation, gap. But, based off of my own experiences,
Google is a good tool, to help me get connected with popular culture, the good students (the children) are very smart, and, two sentences into the conversations, we'd, shown how little we know, compared to them. The children of the internet age, grew up in the exposures of the structures of the various forms, sorts of high-tech devices, and the data from online, or even, the massive amounts of A.I. images or articles, those of us, parents, of the past lifetime, of course we can't, catch up to the speed of things, and rather than, feeling shattered by the experts we'd raised (the children), why not, show them that we're, willing to, learn things from them too.
Asking Our Children for Help to Show the Willingness of Our Own Drives to Learn
The most often problems, something's up with our cellphones, like, the apps we're downloading, suddenly, stopped, and the laziest way is to, give our phones to our children, have them, solve the problems for us. If the kids are doing something else, or showed that inkling of, annoyance, of impatience, or, "I'd taught you how to do it the last time already!", I'd, swallowed what I wanted to bark out at them, "Who do you think you are, talking to me like that! You can't just say no you won't help me out!", and, although, these sorts of emotional response, after blurting it out, it'd felt, great, but, I should be, humbler, humbler, and even more, humbler (actually, one humble would be enough), and asked them, to give them more time, to sort it through on how to, teach me, and ask them the concrete questions regarding the subject matter.
like, this...
cartoon from online
Simply said, to resolve the problems, to problem-solve, we can't, always, rely on, someone else—like we told our kids. And although, they're our own young, but, at this moment of time, they'd become, the masters, instead of, our apprentices, and, I'd had to, add in, the exaggerated praises for my son; like my son, Young Lo, he'd been named as the "head of high-tech" in my home, a ton of the settings, the decisions for the high-tech devices, I'd asked the "department head" for advice on how to, and, Young Lo started, assessing, evaluating the situation, more carefully, he'd not just, brushed his adults, us off.
Once the mindset of the parents had been, altered, it can show the more positive attitude to learn, and the means of learning; as the children became the masters, they may also think, that hey, I can, teach you, anything (or so they may be led to believe!)
Because we are working hard, to acquire the new knowledge, this affected the kids in a positive way, and naturally, they would, change their, originally negative attitude when we'd asked them to show us something, to change how they treat others; and so, that heart of glass that shattered too easily when the kids laughed at us for not knowing how to do something, turns into the tempered glass, to help the children see, that their parents are, not all-knowing, but real, genuine, and open to learn.
So, this is not easy, especially for the Asian culture, because we'd been socialized that adults are great, and children are tiny since we were young, but there are more and more things, that you parents don't know how to do, especially as the high-tech age takes over, and there would be the need for you guys, to consult your own children on stuff, like how to set up that universal remote control??? And, the younger generations are mostly, willing to train the older generations on how to operate these, high-tech devices, so long as you don't carry that attitude of being impatient, when they get, impatient with you for teaching you how many times already again, and you still can't manage?
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