So we don't get belittled by our husbands, their families, and get called, the CONTRIBUTORS of NOTHING, because we're not making those, dollars, and, for your information, housewives are working even harder than all you, nine-to-five ladies, and we don't get our weekends off, no "national holidays", and we women still get called OUT, for NOT "contributing enough" to the household economics??? Yeah, that won't work, at all, NOT in this day and age, and yet, this SHIT is still, happening in all parts of this, modern day, world right now…translated…
Fifty, sixty years ago, there's not the dual-income families that's trending right now. Women after they married, can only, work as an economically codependent, housewife, and once, because my youngest brother was coming to Taipei for his graduation trip, I'd wanted to give him a present of a pencil shaver that costs forty, fifty dollars, so my mother would not have to, sharpen his pencil by the blade every single night. As I'd asked my husband if I could, spend the amount on it, before I finished asking, he'd, become really upset, and asked me, "I provided a roof over your head, food in your stomach, what would you need more money for?", at the very moment, I'd felt, angered and belittled, then I'd told myself, that I need a set of viable skills, to stand up straight.
because we're this...with NO physical paycheck in the dollars and cents...photo from online
Being born in poverty, I couldn't read, but I'd told myself, without the education, I can, become a laborer. My parents gave me the most precious employment quality, my still healthy body, and my not fearing the trials of life, my stamina.
At the time, my children were still quite young, needed the all-day care, I couldn't work, so I'd, started up a production factory right in the living room, made the handicrafts, sold them. I'd gone to bed in the wee hours of the night, gotten up at five, and made TWICE of what someone else worked for and got paid.
After my kids went to school, I'd stopped making the handiwork, I'd begun stitching up the cloth bags during the time I'd sat with my children as they do their homework, and when I got too busy, I'd solicited help from my neighbors. And the following morn after I sent the children off to school, I'd headed out to the different marketplaces to sell the tiny coin purses, and I'd made a, steady set of, income, and, as I was able to provide for my family's economics, that was when my husband's beliefs about me, changed.
Because I had encountered this sort of a trouble in my marriage, I'd, reminded my daughters, that they needed to become, economically independent, and thankful they are, both, really, blessed, with my sons-in-law, respecting them, and the changes of beliefs of time also, came.
as opposed to this...photo from online
Actually, the husband and wife are one whole, on equal basis, there are the differences of values of working at home or bringing in the bread and bacon, there's no need to be too calculating. Being able to understand, cherish, and tolerate one another, have a happy life together, that, is what's, most, important.
And so, this is due to the times, from way, way, WAY back, when women's worth is calculated on WHAT she brings to the families' tables, and during the earlier times, most of us women, chose to stay at home with the kids, because someone has to watch them as they grow up, that's why, many of us gave up a bright and shiny career that may have been available to us at the time, and, because we did NOT bring in the bread and the bacon, not to mention the dough, we get, trashed, and, that's why, many of us are choosing to work out of the home, instead of, being a stay-at-home, unpaid, overworked, mother, maid, housewife, cook, chauffeur, etc., etc., etc., like we ain't got enough on our plates to handle, we still have to deal with these, ancient SEXIST beliefs of how when we don't make the dollars, we are, worthless! And despite how this is, the twenty-FIRST century, not much of this situation had, changed, which is why many of us women, even AFTER we married and had children, we CHOOSE, to work outside the homes, to bring in a paycheck, so we don't get, looked down on, or called, "leeches"…
we get "called out" for being this...and we still don't get "labeled" as "medicinal" either! Photo from online
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