Chaperoning, getting to know the person he is into, and her families too…translated…
My sixteen-year-old son told me one day, that he wanted to ask a female classmate out to a movie. The little boy's all grown up, his originally, smooth face now, filled with pimples, his voice started to change, and he's, silently, getting taller than I am too.
"Did you ask her out yet?", I'd prodded him. "nope!", "You can send an invitation by card to her first.", I'd given him an advice, my son nodded.
It's only normal that children in their adolescent years started getting interested in the opposite sex, no need to get fearful, or prohibit them from seeing each other. Experts believe, that understanding the different needs of children in the varied developmental stages of their lives, learning to interact with the opposite sex, this will have an everlasting effect in the children's interpersonal relations, and their relations with members of the opposite sex, so the parents should take the opportunity to teach them, to have their children start socializing at a young age, so as they grow older, their means of interactions with others will become, maturer.
That day, my son dressed up nicely, I gave him a ride to the door of the theatre, the girl's mother also arrived with her daughter. The two kids went in to the movies, and, we knew one another, but we weren't, acquaintances, and so, we'd, gone to a nearby café to wait for them, and as we engaged in conversations, we'd become, connected as friends too.
Being in a relationship takes practice too, teaching the kids how to plan a date, how they needed to respect each other when they're with each other, this will be beneficial to their growth. While, the best way of understanding our young is to participate in their activities with them, the easiest way to communicate with them about it. We were both grateful, that our children were willing to let us know, that they wanted to go out together, this made us feel at ease. During this time, we'd told our children, to not openly display their affection toward one another in public too much, to not be alone with each other, these are all the important things to mention to them. Otherwise, if something were to happen, then, it will all turn, bad. Rather than prohibiting, accompanying them is the better, option.
If the kids are starting to date, we can invite them to our families, so the parents can get a better understanding of the ones our children are dating, encouraging them, that other than just hanging out, they can, do their homework together too. The kids will be more than likely to take the advice of us, parents, if we give them the understanding and the, support.
I'd always told my son, "we will meet a ton of people in our lives, and at the varied stages of life, we would need different people as friends, to enrich our experiences of life." I'm so happy, that I got to, take that first step with my son, as he enters the next stage of his, growth process.
So, this is on being, a chaperone to your children's dates, by having your children introduce someone they were into to you, and getting to know the other child's family too, that will help your own children grow up steadily, and more mature, and, this is being there for your own children!
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