Lessons taught to him, from interactions shared with his own young son that started with, potty-training…the fruitful gains of the adult's part from conversation with a child…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
Many things we feel, very deeply about, others, don't.
As my son grows up slowly, he'd slowly, "graduated" out of the, diaper stage. He can go all day without his diapers, but at night, he'd still, needed them. His mom and I decided to get him off of the diapers, in the summer.
We'd prepared the needed tools: the toddler-size potty (by the bed), the absorbent mats (on his bed), the sanitary pads (extra layer of protection for reinforcement), the shorts to change him out of after he wet himself. We'd rehearsed the means in the darkness, our son was having a grand time playing.
The most important, construction of his psyche. "It's okay you wet yourself, we'll get you potty trained in time." When I was alone with him, I'd, given him my desserts, told him, "first day, it may be a lot of failures, but that's okay, mommy and daddy will be beside you on this."
He'd looked at me expressionless, like I was speaking in Spanish to him. He'd, gulfed down the desserts, then, hopped to knock on his mom's stomach. My wife made fun, "the lines you used to encourage the younger generations to try things, absolutely, useless for a kid!"
the results of insisiting on our own experiences being the correct one...we don't see the WHOLE picture of things! Illustration from online
To the point that my wife started doubting, "he'd been in diaper for so long, is it, even possible, to get him off of it?", I'd told, "why not? All you need is to make up your mind to!", my son asked, "mind?", I'd attempted to explain, and lost him before I finished, he'd gone to, play with his mother's, stomach again.
Knocking on his mother's stomach, may be his reflex when he'd become, disinterested. The child doesn't cover it up.
Afterwards, I'd thought, yeah, how can a young child understanding the use of the idioms, and what has it to do with him, quitting the diapers? Had I told him, "look, Peter Parker got bitten by that spider, then he'd gained his, superpowers". Maybe, he may be more confident of the changes that can happen in just, one, night.
How would a child understand "you will have many fallbacks in your life as you age"? had I used, "remember how the Minions were unsuccessful in finding a master? From the T-rex, the Pharoah, Dracula, Napoleon, it all failed, and they'd met up with, 'Scarlett Overkill" finally!"
The unconnected communications are occurring daily. Whether it be father to son, boss to employees, teachers to students, wives to, husbands………we often used the beliefs we firmly believed in, the languages we're familiar with, to console, to persuade, to convince someone else. And as all of that came up fruitless, we'd, sighed on how no matter how hard we'd consoled with the person, the person is way too stubborn to change. The more we communicate, the more that gap widens.
The sole cause is how we're all used to speak from our own perspectives, that it's too difficult to see someone else's means, to learn the other individual's language. Had it not been becoming a dad, I would've never know "Scarlett Overkill"!
We are willing to take our time to interact with our own young. But, what about everybody else outside of our families that we come into interactions with every day?
Communications, is not about the techniques to talking, those are, the skills, which are, comparably, simple.
The difficulties of communication lies in the "art" of it: understanding everybody your conveying your messages to, using the frequencies, the languages, to wrap up the message you want to transmit. We all took a lot of time learning English, and when we go to an English-speaking country, we would, naturally transition into speaking the language. Without realizing, that there are, many varied "languages" in Chinese, that we need to transition to and from, in and out of.
Look, I'm preaching to the choir here, and I'm an expert lecturer in the subject of, communication! But, like helping my son quit diaper, the Minions finding their master, I will, keep working on it day after day. My child's hitting his mom on the stomach taught daddy an important lesson: one action beats, millions of, words!
Because what you're saying, doesn't matter to someone you're speaking with, you naturally, can't expect the person to feel the same passions on the subject as you do, this is still due to the self-centeredness of everyone, we're too completely, used to seeing things from our own perspectives, as that's the PRESET of things, and it may take some practice, repeatedly training ourselves, to start seeing someone else's point of view, and that still doesn't become automated, because we always see things from our own angle first, before we're able to, consider someone else's perspectives, but we can train our minds to be more open to others' views.
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