Memories are incidents that make us so emotional, they literally stamp our hearts and mind. Memories have the power to shift our perception of life and influence our response to situations going forward.

It's easy to say, single mums carry over their hurts and pains because it's not so easy to make an impression that would positively shift their current perception. After who needs the stress.

If you are looking to date a single mun, be aware that she has most likely been hurt by another man. A man she tested enough to give her self with the inhibitor of a protection. In getting pregnant, she exposed herself to much more than pregnancy, STD, STI and if you are African, destiny theft 🤔🤔....ate just some of the risks she was exposed to.

She chose to hold on to her child, the only positive thing from her trusting the wrong person. So when you waltz into her life, what you are saying is I am different, give me a chance to show you.

You will need to prove yourself because it's really rare for her to take you serious just because you said you are 😔

You would need to shift her perspective otherwise you might as well keep moving because your words are not enough and PTSD is real.

Thinking you can talk it away is the number one reason you all just get friend zoned or brick walled 😂😂.

Another thing, guys don't realize is be very clear with single mums. If you want to have sex, say it and let her say her terms and conditions. If you want a mistress , be very clear. Don't act like you are looking for forever when you are looking for a shoulder to cry on when forever gives you a sucker punch.

Finally, don't try to compete with the child 🙄. That's a lost battle even before it's started. Even if you are hanging around with hopes of forever, you have a learn to love the child as that love is what the mother actually uses to measure your love for herself.