How the TRADITIONAL Chinese beliefs of males being a hell of a lot worthier than females can, damage us all, because our parents got socialized by their parents using these, messed up values, and they will in turn, socialize us with the SAME wrong values, and because we don't got clues, chances are, we will, also pass this SHIT down to our own young, and the next generations, and the next generations, and the next, and the next……and this SHIT still, NEVER, ends! Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
In a Traditional Chinese Sexist Family, Nobody Grows Up Healthy
The seventy-year-old, Hsiu-Ju (a false name) had not contacted her own family of origin for many years. She lives close to her mother, had once taken care of every household chore for her aging mother—filing the tax returns, clipping her mother's nails, whenever her mother called her on the phones, she'd, rushed, right, over. But her mother was traditionally sexist, and left all the assets and properties to her older and younger brothers, and her mother favored her youngest daughter, and would go to her youngest to discuss everything first; leaving all the hard labors to her.
showing up in the wages of men vs. women in the workplace...photo from online
One time as Hsiu-Ju was riding her scooter to visit her mother, she got into a fender bender, and was hospitalized, her mother never went to visit her, only nagged about how the household items weren't finished, and asked when she's getting out of the hospitals, to come home and help out. Having given everything to her own families, Hsiu-Ju felt that she's nothing more than a tool in the house, she'd felt unfair, and upset, and never went back to her mother's home again. And now, she'd not only, severed off all relations with her own other, she'd, not connected with her siblings either.
The assistant director of the Yu-Xi Clinic, Tsai pointed out, that the sexist beliefs in traditional Chinese cultures, caused women the pains in their upbringing, but she'd reminded, that the children who grew up in the distorted environment, none of these children will come out unscathed, it's just the severity of damages being, varied.
For instance, the spoiled rotten son, his own self, the ability to become independent wouldn't be established, causing him to never become a full self. While the younger daughter who's closer to her mother growing up, may have been socialized early on, that not getting into conflicts, taking good care of her older and younger brothers, sucking up to mom, is the only method of survival of daughters in the family. It's unreasonable, to HATE your own siblings, using your parents', mistakes.
in the homefronts...illustration from online
More of the stories, the older girls in these families, they'd been overlooked, lacking the resources, and worked hard, and gotten a good life based off of their own abilities and means. "But the evaluations of traditional sexist culture can't be examined with the outcomes of the individual." Tsai stressed, it doesn't matter how the daughters fare in life later, they'd been, damaged, and, if there are, no other, conflicts in the women's life, then, the wound will get, covered up too well, and things may flow smoothly for the individuals, but, if there's the incidents in the women's life, whether it be work, marriage, finance, or other aspects, then, the internal trauma will all start, flowing, outward.
She'd consoled with those whom she was counseling, to view the traumas of life as the challenges, although they will be hard, but are still, worth the time, the energies to try and overcome, this is a chance, to deal with what's buried deep beneath, so you can, grow from the traumas of your, lives.
So, this is how the parents' SEXIST beliefs, uneven treatments of their daughters, damages their own young, and, chances are, the children who got damaged, as they became parents, they will, keep on, damaging their own children the same way, playing favorites with their sons, and exploiting their, daughters, because this SHIT is like genetics, it gets passed down from one generation to the next, because nobody has a clue of whatever happened to me in childhood, and we all get, S-T-U-C-K!
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