The case of women on women VIOLENCE, the mothers passing the sexist socialization to their own daughters, which got passed to them by their own mothers, and it's always the kids that gets, damaged in this BAD "equation", and MOST don't realize, let alone, SNAP out of the cycles of abuse here! Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
When you were a child, you were doodling, and your mother told you, "what are you drawing? I can draw better than you, without meaning to!", in your teens, you'd lacked confidence in your appearances, your mother stated, "can't believe how ugly you are!", and, you didn't have anyone to depend on, you grew up, and found a good job, bought yourself a car, and your mother told you, "I'd never bought anything so expensive for myself". As you'd found a good spouse, your mother got into that comparison again, and felt unfair, "I am way better than my own daughter, but why didn't I marry as well as my daughter did?"
In the upbringing of some women, they'd become, their mother's imagined rivals, not just their, daughters. The role of the mother was never loving enough, tolerant like the songs, the mother envied their daughters, the daughters dared not be happy, like, it is a total betrayal, having a better life than our own, mothers.
the mother-on-daughter violence, illustration from online
"Those mothers don't just envy their daughters", the clinical psychologist, Huang who showed long-term care and concern on the subject of women told, that these sorts of mothers were originally conflicted in their jealousies, the lacking from the inside, caused them to feel that they seemed to have something missing, and it would make them feel uneven, when they see someone else better off, and the jealousy would surface in their interpersonal relations, of the relations, the children who needed their mother to love them, couldn't fight back, nor could they, escape, and they'd become, the targets of their mother's upsets.
Huang added, that the mother jealous over the daughter had, misplaced the status of her self, she's the adult, and yet, she'd, compared her childhood self with her own daughter. And, this doesn't just happens with the mothers and daughters but in the plays of fathers and sons too, with the fathers having the needs to win the games every time. They'd not, transitioned into adulthood, and became parents already.
She said, everybody feels jealousy, and the need to compete, and how we interact with the competitiveness early in life, how we survived, will become the blueprint of how we interact with all whom we come into contact with as we grow up. While, the mothers and daughters, had an added factor of gender, the immature mothers would view the daughters as extensions of themselves, or the rivals. And, the daughters are under the hardships of the mothers' jealousies, some began from infancy, some in the teenage years, and for some, the jealousy, the competitions don't show up until the adulthood years, it all depends on which part of the past the mothers are having troubles, overcoming.
the neglect of her daughter, because her mother worked too! Photo from online
And, these mothers would NEVER feel that anything's wrong with them, because she was only using the way their mothers treated them, to treat their own, daughters.
And that is how and W-H-Y, this vicious cycle still, rolls, because the children were helpless, in fighting against their own mothers' sexist treatments, and the mothers got socialized the wrong way, and, they all pass this SHIT down to the next generations, making more trouble for the younger generations of daughters, because that's how this SHIT will, roll, and the problems are with the mothers, because they're NOT mature enough, because they did NOT get taken care of psychologically, because their younger selves are, damaged by their own, mothers, so they damage us, their own, daughters too, and this is still a case of women on women VIOLENCE!
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