Freelancer posted: " As a single parent,you sometimes find yourself going on a guilt trip. Infact some do it so often, it affects their ability to function right, how much more to parent right. It has been said that even atheist sometimes wonder about the all knowing " Single Mum Mind
As a single parent,you sometimes find yourself going on a guilt trip. Infact some do it so often, it affects their ability to function right, how much more to parent right.
It has been said that even atheist sometimes wonder about the all knowing and all seeing God. So it is that single parents tend to wonder about what if they had a partner?
What if they had more money?
What if they had more time?
What if they got promoted?
Some of those decisions were heavily influenced by your expectations and not based on your reality. All your life, you have made decisions with expectations. Some cane to pass and some didn't. It's the cycle called life.
Now as a single parent, a biological mentor, regardless of what you think of that role, it is what you are to your children: you are going to have to avoid passing on unrealistic assumptions and failed dreams which you are still holding on to.
I remember my dad calling to ask me, how I could let my mum remarry, this from a man who was at the time living with a third woman, but he was holding on to a dream of reuniting with my mum and was trying to use me to achieve that instead of accepting that their relationship was over
A lot of us pass on failed dreams to our children as goals or required milestones and that is very damaging. It places the pressure of milestones you failed to achieve on your children often delaying if not completely derailing them from achieving their own dreams.
When you call on the gods, you are also trying to convince yourself that you deserve what you asking for. But sometimes, you really just need to pray for the grace to accept what you can not change and move on to possibilities ahead.
Maybe you need to consider a suitor more seriously, a new job or even a travel opportunity might just be what you are missing out on by trying to make it up to your disappointments instead of your progressive happiness
The miracle you see is within you for You are the gods
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