Long before the Enneagram or the Meyers-Briggs personality classifications, I learned of the four spiritual temperaments: choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, and melancholic. Everything I read indicated I was melancholic.
Melancholics aren't sad, as the name sounds. But they tend to be quiet, introspective, and perfectionistic. That last trait can cause them a great deal of trouble. One, because they'll never be perfect, this side of heaven. Two, because no one and nothing else will ever be, either.
One preacher crystallized the melancholic personality for me by saying they want everything to be right.
Well, you might say, what's wrong with that? Don't we all want things to be right?
One problem is with the concept of right: right according to whom?
Some things just seem common sense to me, and I wonder that others don't see them that way. For instance, my local grocery store places the snack-sized fruit cups on a completely different row than the applesauce fruit cups. Why not put all the fruit cups and canned fruit on the same aisle? They also put the oatmeal on a different aisle than the boxed breakfast cereal. I'm ashamed to confess I have wasted a lot of frustration over things like that.
But sometimes someone else's ideas of right make just as much sense to them as mine do to me, like ways to load the dishwasher, fold towels, or refill the toilet paper roll.
So those of us with a highly developed sense of "right" need to learn humility and forbearance. Others may have reasons for what they do that we don't know. Who are we to insist everything be done our way? Stewing over little things that aren't according to our preferences just raises our blood pressure and makes us grumpy.
But sometimes right really does matter significantly. You wouldn't want your brain surgeon or accountant to be unconcerned whether they're doing their procedures right.
My husband and I have battled frustration with products and services when someone's carelessness resulted in great problems. No, they weren't of brain surgery level importance, but they took hours on the phone to rectify.
We need perspective to know when something not right should be let go or insisted upon.
And we need grace and wisdom to convey the need for the level of rightness, not because it's our own opinion, but because of the consequences if things aren't done a certain way.
We also want to set things right when hard things happen to our loved ones. But we can't. We can only try to comfort and offer aid. God has reasons for allowing hard things, and we have to let His purposes work out. In this case, He is doing what's best, even if it's hard to understand and experience."Shall not the Judge of all the earth do right?" (Genesis 18:25, KJV).
Then there are major national and world-level scenarios that are far beyond our scope of influence. I rarely watch the news any more because it leaves me angry, frustrated, and/or sad. I listen to news headlines on the radio. And of course, you can't scroll social media without picking up on what's going on in the world.
We're not alone in these concerns. The psalmists and prophets in the Bible often lamented and spoke out against the injustices and oppression in their time. They called on God to set things right.
The world at large won't be fully "right" until Jesus comes again to rule and reign. Just one place where this is promised is Jeremiah 23:5: "Behold, the days are coming, declares the Lord, when I will raise up for David a righteous Branch, and he shall reign as king and deal wisely, and shall execute justice and righteousness in the land."
Does that mean we keep our heads down and just endure til He returns?
No. We can pray for His will to be done on earth as it is in heaven, as He taught in "the Lord's prayer."
We can speak up at appropriate times and ways. We can let our "light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven" (Matthew 5:16).
We can tell others of His righteousness and how they can be right with Him and each other.
Like the old story about the child who was trying to save starfish on the beach by throwing them back in the water. A man told him, "You can't possibly save them all." "No, said the boy, "but I can save this one."
We can't set everything right. Only God can do that. But we can be instruments in His hand.
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