Once you've decided to welcome an adult child home, then it's time to set ground rules, says Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult." Start with a candid conversation about what each party expects. "Get clear on, 'You're older now, things have changed. … We are happy to support you, but let's talk about what we expect in terms of day-to-day norms and behaviors,'" she says.
In many cases, she says, it makes sense to treat young adults like Airbnb guests: They will use the kitchen and a bedroom but do their own laundry and some household chores and pay some rent. Barring mental health challenges or another crisis, a young adult should be expected to pitch in financially, too. "If they can't pay rent, then maybe they can pay for groceries or the phone bill," she says.
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