I had a great idea for a post this week. My plan was to write about my origin story for self-compassion. It would have been great. It could have been beautiful. But there was just one fatal flaw: I didn't have time.
Over the years, I have enjoyed skirting this issue on so many occasions. It was a thrill to have a busy week and find a few minutes here and there to write. This week that did not happen, though, because I truly didn't have time.
The weekend is where I usually make time to write or finalize my blog posts. This past weekend, though, was totally packed. Though it was packed with good things, they didn't leave much room for quiet time and writing.
Option A: Pushing Through
What is a blogger to do? Well, some might push through, stay up late, and come up with something. I have done that a few times and don't judge the approach. This blogger, though, is also a teacher of mindfulness and self-compassion.
Sometimes a teacher must learn her own lessons. The lesson this week is this: sometimes self-compassion means saying no. Yes, it can be awesome to push through one's perceived limits and reach for higher heights. Does that mean we always must do it?
Option B: Saying No
I say no. It can be awesome to push through limits when we really commit to it. It's painful, though, when pushing--always pushing--is the only option. I started this blog because I love writing and wanted to share resources and instruction on mindfulness and compassion.
Even so, I have the blessing and the curse of loving lots of things. I love my work, my family, and myself too. This means that sometimes--not every time--I have to prioritize. If I am to keep loving writing, sometimes saying no to it must be an option.
Conclusion: Sometimes Saying No Is the Best Option
So this is my rousing bit of mindfulness and clarity for the day. Say no. Give it a try. Lawyers don't have the option to do this in every situation. This means it is even more important to say no when we can. Today, I am saying no to a big fancy blog post and saying yes to keeping things light and simple.
I have to say that it feels pretty good. How can you say no today?
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