thesundayspaces posted: " Day 1: Shifting Perspectives (an exercise on reflection) Yesterday, I was thinking about how much my internal self-talk revolves around the judgement of other people. I had dinner with my friends and I did something slightly embarrassing. For the rest" thesundayspaces
Yesterday, I was thinking about how much my internal self-talk revolves around the judgement of other people. I had dinner with my friends and I did something slightly embarrassing. For the rest of the day, that one incident played in my head - over and over - even as I was trying to fall asleep a few hours later.
Then, I had the revelation that instead of thinking about how embarrassing and awkward I was, what if I thought about all the times I made my friends laugh instead? What about all the times I was actually funny without even trying, the times when we were all just hanging out, enjoying each other's company instead of thinking about who was the most embarrassing at that table? In actual fact, wouldn't that be what they were thinking of the whole time?
When I was at dinner, I was just so glad to be in the company of my friends and spending time with them. Surely they all have their flaws - as any normal human being would - but I loved them all the same. Wouldn't they do the same for me? If they didn't, would I want to be bothered with their opinion? I don't think so…
So, today's reminder is to stop worrying about what other people think of you. People can think what they want and that's out of your control. Instead, if you know that your actions are guided by good intentions, then that is good enough.
(For the narrated version, please watch this video)
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