Freelancer posted: " Fact is most women dissing abused women are lashing out at the fact that you are making them re-live their traumas.They never addressed it, they were told to keep it quiet. That uncle is now the one you think is her favorite because she defers to him" Single Mum Mind
Fact is most women dissing abused women are lashing out at the fact that you are making them re-live their traumas. They never addressed it, they were told to keep it quiet. That uncle is now the one you think is her favorite because she defers to him a lot. It is not because she loves him, it is because that is the uncle that got her parents to shut her up as a child. Whenever he made her uncomfortable and she reported, she was scolded by her parents so he became the higher authority in her eyes. So sometimes, when an adult you expect to speak up chooses to deny your reality, it might not be because they hate you but because they never got someone to speak for them and can't understand why you think someone should speak up for you
My message is simple, you don't expect someone who is still in pain to comfort you. You are going to have to seek the needed support elsewhere, try support groups, therapist etc. But most times, just avoid the hurting individual who has chosen to deal by passing on her hurts
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