The twists and turns of her life, and she still got a good man who love and respects her in the end, the love is not at all easy to come by, especially for these, migrants from other countries who move to Taiwan to make a life for themselves, translated…
The love came from, far, far away, the ladies who married over to Taiwan, after they were wed, had to spend even more energies, to adapt to a culture that's not the same as their own, and this sort of a trial, cultural shock, they only know it themselves, but these women shared a common trait: bravery.
I'd gone out to dine with Ying, who is from Cambodia and Hong who recently got married, wished them well, seeing the smiles radiating from their faces, I can't help but recall the sad past that Ying already had, had.
At the age of twenty, she was matchmade by a broker to marry to Taiwan, and, started going to community college to learn Chinese, and that was when we first became acquainted; well-behaved and studious as she was, she's active in learning her Chinese, I could tell that she was hurried to assimilate herself into the culture of Taiwan,
During her pregnancy, she'd not made it to class, and shortly thereafter we'd reconnected again in another group; taking the baby along to attend wasn't easy, but she'd not given up on any opportunities to improve her skills. She has such a need to learn, and that was when I'd felt, that she was the talented woman who was caused to live in the trials of life by fate.
The days passed, originally she was living happily, with in-laws who loved and cherished her, but, her husband's affair was the biggest curve ball of her life; later she'd decided to give up on this marriage, and accepted the help from the organization as well as her friends, settled herself as well her kids down and in, slowly, digested her own, upset of her husband's affair, how her marriage had, fallen, apart, and started actively involving herself in the cause of improving the rights of migrated women, slowly found her confidence back.
While Hong, who graduated from a university in the U.S., came back to Taiwan to learn Chinese, interned at Ying's group, and they'd become, connected since, from the very start when his parents were against them being together, to finally making it across all the obstacles of their love, to be together, to finally, walking down that aisle.
I think that Ying was amazing, that despite how she was treated so unfairly in a foreign land, she'd not lost her trust in people. I, who also, got through a bad marriage just like her, and even as twenty-seven years had passed, I'd still, selected to stay single, fearing, that the new love I get in, will become, bad immediately after I'd found it.
Seeing how Ying and Hong shared their foods together, being not fluent enough in Mandarin, Hong relies on Ying's translation, I could feel the love between their interactions.
I truly hope, that Ying's hard-to-come-by second marriage will, last to the end.
So, this is the trials of life of a woman, and she's, worked really hard, to get over her husband's skill, worked hard to assimilate herself to the culture, the life here, and, her hard work paid off, she'd found a man for herself, who loves her with his whole heart. Love will eventually come, if it's meant to, and, the trials we're weathering through right now, is nothing more than a stepping stone to get us to where we're going in our lives.
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