Motherhood can be a thankless calling. We do not talk about this enough as women and men certainly do not understand. Mind you, I have always loved my children. However, children are not always empathic creatures. Me, ME, ME extends through the toddler years into the teens, and sometimes beyond. A sense of me is healthy, and it is a healthy part of development to separate from the caregiver.
Our daughter's behavior earned a media fast for her. She is livid. Her continued nastiness proved that a media fast is exactly WHAT she needs. Is her brother participating in this media fast, no, because he doesn't need it. It may seem unfair to the mere observer. However, parenting to your child's needs means you look at that child's behavior and do what needs to be done. I decided that there will be 7 days without media. Oh,she has constantly pitched a fit. She not going to do chores, etc. I disengage from the argument. My husband asked, " I was serious about this consequence, with company coming on Tuesday? He was answered with my best Resting Beauty Face,.
I haven't been this sick since the first time I had COVID back when it was a novel disease. I have been in my pj's with no hair and makeup for three days that is how sick I am.
In the end, these difficult moments bring us to the adult children that we love and like as people. It is the getting there that sometimes feels thankless.
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