Be careful what we post, because, everything can be taken, as something, offensive by someone else, and, you will, lose someone you may originally have been, friends or, just acquaintance, with too easily…translated…
The publishing agency I worked in from before, received a submission from a middle school student, suspected that the student wasn't familiar with the submissions process, the submission didn't get through, the student thought that all that s/he had worked so hard for, was gone, and got furious, and, sent the upsets in forms of letters of complaints, grievances, into the customer's service box.
the book of, rules...from online
The coworkers from the tech department helped the student fish the submissions back for the student, that that this was over, but, the angry mail was sent to the customer's services email, and everybody in the department can see it, and most of my former coworkers felt, that the student should NOT have cussed and insulted, and, they'd used the phone number that the sender left, and notified the high school which the student, attends
Maybe, it's this false sense of anonymity when we are online, we'd often given too much of our hearts, or that we wanted all the spotlight on us, to solve the problems we are currently, stuck, on, so the words that came out online, became what we normally, wouldn't say. And soon as we hit that Enter key, everything is so blank, like the words and sentences we'd written, is now, deep in that, lake that's too deep somewhere, that nobody will EVER know what we'd, stated.
But actually, someone DOES, see it. Those misspoken words would become like the ax that the woodsman accidentally tossed into the lake in Aesop's Fables, but not everybody gets to meet up with the Lady of the Lake, getting the iron ax returned, plus the gold and the silver one too. When that ax that's fallen into the lake is too sharp that it can hurt people, I'm certain, that the Lady of the Lake would be driven to call the police, then, that ax that's accidentally dropped in, suddenly becomes, the evidence of a crime.
Not long thereafter, the department received a letter of apology from the student, that, I suppose, was a better ending of this, story. Back to, the moment of the coworker's contemplations of "do we notify his school?", the coworker who received the letter, became entangled: will I hurt this, young man, causing him to get a written reprimand from his school? The bullshit business of online, extending into the reality, this was the interpersonal interaction trouble that people from the Stone Age wouldn't worry about, but, you and I, living in the high-tech era, we must, adapt ourselves to everything that surfaces, and this is, nothing, easy. Although, the student is still a minor, but the instincts of the users of the program, may not pale by comparison to the developer of the website, or maybe, the interface is, difficult to use, and he'd, only, dramatically let everybody know how the interface wasn't that easy to use, but, verbal violence IS, verbal, violence, how do we, respond back in a way, that doesn't make it into, a federal, case, my firm had, discussed the matter, internally.
not easy at all, especially when you're not dealing with the other individual, face-to-face...illustration from online
And current day is completely different than the past, if today, I got into an argument with a neighbor because of parking, and we'd both cussed each other out, at most, we'd slammed our individual front doors, and, continued fuming inside our individual homes, and if the timing is right, then, the problems will get, resolved. But today, if the incident was, posted onto the Community Groups, then, things get a lot more, complicated to handle, and maybe, the individuals had already, apologized, and resolved things with each other, but once the ancient histories get dug up and back out there are still going to be those who don't know what exactly happened, who will, make the, comments that would make the matters, worse, all over, again.
My neighbor from across me was caught on camera, to not separate the various kinds of recycle materials, the chairperson posted the footage onto the Group, and my neighbor never attended ANY of the meeting. Awhile ago, the realtors came by often, to show the property, turned out, my neighbor was, considering, selling the apartment already.
Ther are, many different hardships in life, in the new interpersonal relationship age, it seemed like, nothing, while the weightiness of what we say, is just as, complex and, not at all, easy to, master.
This is on, WATCH what you say to people online, because you NEVER know when you are, offending, something, instead, if you can, have a face-to-face conversation with the individual you're having that disagreement with, talk out your differences face-to-face, to eliminate, all possible, misunderstandings, unless, you want to lose a neighbor like the writer did…
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