Menitos Farm Depot posted: " As a single mum, your family is often you first pillar of support. Close or distant, you are likely to reach out to them.dor comfort and maybe even guidance. So what happens when your support pillar is a predator? This is often quite difficult "
As a single mum, your family is often you first pillar of support. Close or distant, you are likely to reach out to them.dor comfort and maybe even guidance.
So what happens when your support pillar is a predator?
This is often quite difficult to deal with. The need for a shoulder would make you confide and eagerly follow advise that has more in it for the adviser thanks you.
It is extremely importance that you are aware and pay attention to your children's feedback on secondary caregivers. While it is true that kids can attempt exploit emotions, it is not strange for adults to exploit their innocence and the impact of a deceptive adult can be life changing for children.
My mum has brothers who have always been secretly hostile, but my mum would take their word against mine as a child, when I grew up and started fighting back, they were exposed but till date, I can't trust my to hold my side in a fight. It's not because she hates me but she is so traditional and believes in sacrificing to keep the family unit together.
As a single parent, you really need to consciously parent as people would attempt to underscore your effort and often justify it by saying they are been supportively, but be firm in defining the limits of support regardless of who is involved.
Encourage your child to speak up and don't ignore issues like a nagging relative, or and absent minded one . Especially if that trait is not what is exhibited to you.
Teach your child to be contented with available provisions. If you can't afford a birthday party but cooked up a storm for his birthday, he better be ready to flaunt it as much as if he gone to Disney's.
Always discuss the big picture with your kids. This might sound získaly but it gives them fuel to keep going despite the negativity around them. I tell my kids my plans and they are able to just let people talk because they know they don't know our big plans .
You will be accused of coddling, over reacting and all manners of act when you stand up against hostile support. But be firm and define the relationship till it's accepted by all.
You will thank me for the peace that comes with it .
Redaksi posted: " Oleh: M Rizal Fadillah (Pemerhati Politik dan Kebangsaan) MediaBantenCyber.co.id - (MBC) Bandung, Di antara KHAYALAN untuk bisa mengecilkan umat Islam oleh kelompok Islamofobia, SEKULER, LIBERALIS dan KOMUNIS di era Jokowi adalah membubarkan MUI. Mimpi s"
Oleh: M Rizal Fadillah (Pemerhati Politik dan Kebangsaan) MediaBantenCyber.co.id- (MBC) Bandung, Di antara KHAYALAN untuk bisa mengecilkan umat Islam oleh kelompok Islamofobia, SEKULER, LIBERALIS dan KOMUNIS di era Jokowi adalah membubarkan MUI. Mimpi sambil NGELINDUR dan bicara ngelantur. Berjalan miring terlalu banyak minum. Berkumpul di cafe buzzeria D'AMPLOPIA.
Berkhayal sukses untuk membubarkan kelompok radikal, kadrun, dan perongrong negara. Para Kyai intoleran dan tukang kritik yang dianggap buta atas kemajuan dan kehebatan negara di bawah kepemimpinan Presiden jenius produk dari suara kardus. Bahagia bahwa MUI telah dihancurkan oleh akal bulus ditambah dukungan fulus.
Mimpi tinggal mimpi, MUI bukan FPI atau HTI yang menjadi organisasi keagamaan yang dianggap tidak berdampak atas pembubarannya. MUI itu MEREPRESENTASI hampir semua organisasi kemasyarakatan Islam, ulama serta cendekiawan. Pembubaran dipastikan BERIMPLIKASI LUAS.
Implikasi pembubaran yang patut diperhitungkan dan menjadi kesulitan kelompok yang berkumpul di cafe buzzeria D'AMPLOPIA, yaitu:
Pertama, Ketua Dewan Pertimbangan MUI Pusat adalah KH Ma'ruf Amin yang tidak lain merupakan Wakil Presiden RI. Tokoh NU yang berpengaruh. Demikian juga dengan Ketua Umum MUI KH Miftachul Akhyar adalah tokoh NU pula.
Kedua, membubarkan MUI sama saja dengan keharusan untuk membubarkan wadah serupa dari agama lain seperti DGI, MAWI, PHDP, dan Walubi. MUI sebagai wadah umat mayoritas saja dapat dibubarkan apalagi yang lain. Akan terjadi kekacauan atas eksistensi keberagamaan beserta kelembagaannya.
Ketiga, MUI sebagai wadah yang MEREPRESENTASI berbagai ormas Islam memiliki Jalinan akar rumput yang kuat, karenanya reaksi besar dari potensi kekuatan Islam tidak akan terhindarkan. Gelombang besar aksi menjadi suatu keniscayaan.
Keempat, kewenangan Pemerintah untuk membubarkan juga tidak ada. MUI bukan organ Pemerintah. Dibentuk berdasarkan musyawarah Ulama, Zu'ama, dan Cendekiawan Muslim dari unsur NU, Muhammadiyah, SI, Perti, Al Washliyah, MA, MDI, GUPPI, PTDI, Al Ittihadiyah, utusan kerohanian AD, AU, AL, Polri serta tokoh perseorangan pada tanggal 26 Juli 1975.
Kelima, MUI bukan badan, lembaga, komisi negara yang "dibentuk dengan undang-undang atau oleh Pemerintah atas perintah undang-undang" sebagaimana diatur dalam UU No 11 tahun 2012. Tetapi FATWA MUI telah menjadi sandaran untuk berbagai lembaga keuangan syariah termasuk Dewan Syari'ah Nasional. Begitu juga dahulu, Sertifikasi Halal. Pembubaran akan berdampak pada produk hukum.
Sebagai "Quasi Autonomous Non Governmental Organization (quANGO)" maka tidaklah mudah untuk membubarkan MUI. Karenanya dengan alasan ada anggota pengurus yang ditangkap dengan tuduhan terorisme, maka tidak bisa menjadi dasar untuk pembubaran. Isu dan desakan itu adalah MIMPI-MIMPI dari para PEMBENCI Islam yang mengira tidak akan mendapat perlawanan. Mimpi lagi.
Bila Pemerintah berani membubarkan MUI dengan berbagai alasan buatan, bukan mimpi lagi jika ternyata Pemerintah kini yang justru dibubarkan oleh umat Islam. Semoga isu terorisme bukan bagian dari rekayasa yang terkait dengan keberadaan Majelis Ulama Indonesia (MUI).(BTL)
Tap posted: " Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world's grief. Do justly now, love mercy now, walk humbly now. You are not obligated to complete the work.But neither are you free to abandon it.- THE TALMUD. "
Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world's grief. Do justly now, love mercy now, walk humbly now. You are not obligated to complete the work. But neither are you free to abandon it.
Aunnah R posted: " Alexis stared at her reflection in the mirror with bloodshot eyes. She rubs at them but the more she rubbed the puffier they got. Alexis splashed her face with cold water and patted it dry. When they returned from Lily's house Brian and her got into "
Alexis stared at her reflection in the mirror with bloodshot eyes. She rubs at them but the more she rubbed the puffier they got. Alexis splashed her face with cold water and patted it dry.
When they returned from Lily's house Brian and her got into a huge argument. Brian was, once again, making Lily out to be an angel and Alexis in the wrong. He even used her supposed illness as an excuse.
"Alexis, she wasn't feeling well. I'm sure she didn't mean what she said."
"Has she been sick our entire marriage Brian? That woman has never liked me! I don't understand why you keep making excuses for her," Alexis yelled flustered. She could feel the rage pumping through her veins. It was setting her body on fire.
"But you didn't have to respond. Just ignore her."
"Oh, you mean like you do?," Alexis snapped.
"Alexis,"
"Ignore her like the way you did when she constantly disrespected me?"
"Alexis," Brian said a little louder as he squeezed the bridge of his nose.
"Or ignore me when I ask you to talk to your mother. Did you ever even do that?" Alexis was ranting, she knew, but she was so mad everything was just spilling out.
"Do you really think I lied to you about talking to her?"
"Clearly! If you can't stand up for me when the occasion calls for it then I'm sure you didn't when I asked you to. I don't care anymore she is a vine and cruel woman and I want nothing to-"
"Stop it!," Brian yelled cutting off Alexis mid sentence. "You will not sit here and disrespect her like this."
Alexis took a step back, staggering a bit. Where was all of this passion when Lily got out of line? When Alexis needed him to be strong and forceful for her? Alexis was mad and she no longer trusted him to be on her side when she needed him.
It wasn't until she heard him slam the front door that Alexis realized she said it out loud.
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